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So... I need some help I broke up with this guy...
Alright... so i've been dating this guy for a couple of months and I broke off with him today... the reason why I broke it off with him is because I couldn't handle not seeing him only 2-3 times a month. He's in college and lives about 30-45 minutes away from me. I broke it off because he doesn't really pay attention to me and although he is a really nice guy I just think he's not ready to be more than just friends and he agreed that he "doesn't know what he wants." The last couple of months have been pretty bumpy because I went to get tested for HIV the first time in my life and I told him. He never asked how it went and didn't talk to me for a couple of days after I told him and so that was pretty much my deciding factor. I was really scared and needed someone to be there and he wasn't there for me just like he wasn't there a couple of times we'd been dating. So anyway, I talked to him on AIM and asked him some questions and he said that I've been bitchy lately and distant and I told that I have been because, "everytime I get atttached to you I end up being more disappointed than not." and he said some hurtful things and I was like "well, then I guess this is the best thing for both of us." and then he said... "well, fuck you too." and then blocked me... I feel really bad because I've never had to break up with anyone. Usually i'm the one that gets broken up with... I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should call him or wait a couple of days and then call him. I told one of my older friends and he was like, if he isn't mature enough to have that type of conversation and go through the whole, "no hard feelings thing" then he's not worth your time... I just grrr. I hate being cross with someone... anyway... some help? By the way, he's caused me a lot of tears because I constantly thought about him and he came off like he's never really thought about me. I think he's just a really passive guy and that he really does care about me, but doesn't know what to do... Also, distance is probably a factor, but I think it's just the chemistry between us wasn't good enough. The first few weeks we went out was really good because he'd pay attention to me and then the later weeks got worse and worse where he wouldn't text me or IM me. *sigh* help please :(
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Danielle: Honey, I clutch this letter to my swelling heart. First, you did the right thing by breaking up with him. If he's the kinda guy that made you cry, the ugly bum needs to be put out on the streets! But, if he really cared about you, he wouldn't have been all, "fuck you" and he wouldn't have blocked you. You did the right thing, and DO NOT CALL HIM. Let him come to you if he wants closure. But for now, you do not need some jerk like that in your life. The best way to get over a guy...is too.......
GET A NEW ONE! ;) But if you can't move on right now, take it easy.
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Well, I want to say that it was a very good thing that you broke it off with him. The reason why I said that is that you saw the true him come to surface. Did you like the way he was reacting after you broke up with him. Im thinking that you didn't like the way he react well, that was the true him and if you didn't like the real him. Well you did the right thing. If he was a nice person he would had understand. Can't anybody make you cry because if you take in what he said about you well of course you going to cry but if you block what he say from his mouth and understand that he just pissed because you drop him and you don't need the 2to3 times a month visit anymore you will not cry because you did a good thing for yourself.
read the bible it always help.
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