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topics while talking?
ok well im single right now but i have a problem with keeping conversations going because i can never think of things to say and it seems like half the time when i do say somthing its not the right thing to say.
Can you help me with figuring out how to be more talkitive or give me things that i can talk about. i get real shy easily too...well sorta
and im not very good at talking on the phone i hate the akward silences....soo please help me what can i do?!?!?
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I completely understand how you feel. I feel awkward and shy too, unless I feel comfortable. I'm sure you heard this a lot before, but the best thing to do is to relax and be yourself. You mention that when you say something it's not the right thing to say...everyone is self-consious. The more you think about saying the "right thing," the more nervous and tense you'll feel.Besides, sometimes when you think you've said the wrong thing, the other person might not think so at all. I know it seems difficult, but try to relax and be yourself. Often times, your true personality comes through when you feel comfortable. But anyway, I get the same way. I tend to be shy, but I do have my moments. I'm starting to date someone (the last time I have was around last year), and it's too soon to tell how things are going. I do feel awkward and tense at times, but when I remind myself to relax, things go so much better. Oh, and the whole talking on the phone thing...I hate awkward silence as much as you do, but we all go through it. And sometimes, it's not just you...you may simply not click with someone, and that's okay.
Sometimes I try to bring up something random that I'm interested in, or that i may be thinking about, and that usually gets the conversation flowing. At othertimes, I pretty much know right away if I get along with someone or not.
Just to let you know, I grew up as the "quiet, awkward one" who sometimes had her moments. My sister was the social butterfly of the family. Sometimes I look at her and try to emulate her behavior. She'll just start talking to random people, and is really easy going. We're not all like that, but what I noticed was that she's comfortable and isn't too self-conscious. I think that social skills come with confidence. It takes a lot of building up, but a good first step is to try and relax and not think too deeply about the situation.
WOW! I've written a lot. I hope this helps. Feel free to message me with other questions or comments!
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