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friends with benefits?!
ok so i am 16 and i am a sophmore in high school and i have been really good friends with this kid for most of the school year and then on valentines day we told eachother we like eachother but the thing is he was hurt really bad in a relationship a little while back so he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. (which i am completely ok with but...) ever since we told eachother we liked eachother he has been saying that we can be friends with benefits and we cant even have a real conversation without him saying something sexual or about us having sex. What do i do because i like him but i dont really think with my personality i would be able to do the whole "friends with benefits" thing because but i like him. I dont really know what to do because me and this guy are VERY close friends and we can tell eachother everything but now all i feel like is a "booty call" and i dont like it.. what do i do?!?!
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I understand where you're comming from on the whole freinds with benefits thing. There are alot of different things you can do or try so I'll try and explain each of them :)
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You could tell him how you feel. That you really do like him & you're not sure if being FWB would be a good idea. That you feel like a booty call & you feel in a way disrespected, & even if you guys become FWB that you wont have the same [tell everything] friendship as before.
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Sorry to say, but from what I'v understood [just got out of a bad relationship] basicly is an excause to get some, but not have to worry about a relationship. It could be true, and maybe he did just get out of a relationship, but if he cares alot about you and likes you enough, it wouldn't matter. He`d be willing to take the risk again.
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The best thing to do is wait. Stay firends no FWB, and just wait for him to be ready. To not be [hurt] anymore. Might take a litte while, but if you like him enough it should be worth the wait.
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I hope this helped some & if not : drop on in the inbox & I'll try and help more :)
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hmm, thats tough. Well if you close and tell eachother everything then talk to him about it. Say that you like him so much and yea you could have friends with benifits but you dont just like him for that you like him for [whatever reasons]. Its worth a try. If he doest like you back you cn take friends with benifits, or if you willing to wait then you can do that. or just stay friends. Hope it helped.
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Um, I don't see how this would be "friends with benefits". I mean I see the benefits for him but not for you. So don't go for it, he's being really inconsiderate to even suggest something like that. You deserve someone who actually cares about you and wants to be in a relationship, not someone who just wants to have sex with you.
Oh, and that "I was just in a really bad relationship" line is the oldest one in the book that guys use when they're not that into you, but don't want you to feel too upset about it.
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just tell him how you feel. if he says that again just be like "oh, what am i just a sex toy now ? that`s all you can say to me ?" and tell him you feel like you`re being used for sex. if he doesn`t respect you&back off, then he`s not worth it.
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