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tired of feeling like i don't measure up
14/F
SORRY THIS IS SO LONG!!
hi!!, okay, so i'm a freshman in highschool, and VERY VERY VERY shy. I don't quite know how to talk to guys, flirting, or just general conversation because im so worried that i'll say something stupid, or just ramble on and on and on, or not be understood...etc.
Adults in my life (from temple, or just adult friends) always tell me how poised, comfortable in my skin, and beautiful/pretty i am. They also say, "all of the boys must be all over you-(then they say this to my father) keep an eye on her, dont let her go out on too many dates." Well, i don't think im poised AT ALL, im really not that comfortable with my self-image, i don't think im pretty, or good looking, and i certainly don't do very well in the guy/dating department (although i want to).(i've also NEVER had a boyfriend, but i REALLY want to.)
it really bothers me when people tell me that i must be doing well in the guy dept becuase i feel as if im not measuring up to their expectations, or maybe that they're just saying that to be polite to me-which then makes me self-conscience.i get very upset when somebody says that, (i not to show it), and i just say thank you and then i feel horrible for the rest of the day/night.
i dont know why this is....so i have a few questions.......1) how do i respond to that question/statement without feelin badly, 2) how do i let people know not to say that to me, and 3) how do i talk to a guy, to make me like me and specifically to have him ask me out.................remember, im SUPER shy.
thanks, and again, sorry this is so long!!
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ALL YOU NEED IS CONFIDENCE! it seems like you are really pretty because a lot of people say that, but even if you weren't guys would still like you a lot if you were confident. just look in the mirror and pick out things that you like about your face. dress in outfits that make you feel more confident and comfortable. just because a shirt looks really good doesnt mean it looks good on you, so you cant really wear those. just wear things that look really good on your body so you will feel more confident, and then you WILL be able to tell these people that yeah guys do like you a lot.
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You should tell them that you have more important things to do than chase after guys. I mean, when I was 14 I thought most of them were idiots. Boyfriends are really easy to get when you get older, like in college, they really will be all over you. Until then don't worry so much about it, relationships are things that only come when you're not thinking about them or looking for a new one.
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