Question Posted Thursday February 15 2007, 9:15 pm
Ok there is a dance at my school, and im going to ask my ex to dance, we broke up cause she wasnt felling it :( . Anywho I was wondering if it is ok to whisper in her ear somthing like I still love or I miss you. Is it ok? She wants to be just friends and her step sister said " dont she will be a dink " but I dont want her to go out with me again out of guilt. But I would also like to no some other things I could say, something affective! But this is a Junior high dance im in grade 8 and she is in grade 7 but were both 13. I need help real bad!
Additional info, added Thursday February 15 2007, 9:19 pm: When we broke up she said she was comfused and that she was not shure who she liked. All the girls in my school say " its just comfuesd " is that true is it excuse? . Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Brandi_S answered Thursday February 15 2007, 10:45 pm: Honestly? If she says she just wants to be friends, you need to respect that. Especially if she is confused about her feelings. (That may be true, but it could be an excuse she used in order to not hurt your feelings. It can go either way.)
Don't go whispering sweet nothings into her ear. Dance with her, yes, but this "I still love you" business, no. If you start pushing her like that, you will only end up pushing her away.
I'm not exactly sure what you mean by she wasn't "felling" it (feeling, maybe?) Either way, she obviously wasn't into the relationship, and if she says she only wants to be friends, I doubt she will be willing to get back into a relationship with you.
kiran answered Thursday February 15 2007, 10:05 pm: Sometimes the confused and that she wasn't sure who she likes usually is an excuse and sometimes its true that their confused. Dancing with her is cool but even if you still like her don't wisper it in her ear. It might make her feel weird. Give her some space if she still liked you she would probably tell you. But so far the relationship is over and it happens to basically everyone and they are just gonna have to accept that. [ kiran's advice column | Ask kiran A Question ]
Xineph answered Thursday February 15 2007, 9:36 pm: I seriously wouldn't recommend doing that. You can dance with her if you'd like, but whispering that in her ear will only make things more painful and complicated for her. As for the "it's just comfuesd" excuse (which is spelled "confused", by the way), that sounds pretty genuine to me. But just because she's confused doesn't mean she's coming back to you. You need to accept that the relationship is over. [ Xineph's advice column | Ask Xineph A Question ]
dannisaysso answered Thursday February 15 2007, 9:36 pm: well i am a girl and out of experience, when i didnt like a guy that was usually the excuse i would use. dont try too hard to get her back, give her her space and if she really likes you, she may come back. if you want to ask her to the dance, just ask her you dont need to tell her that you miss her or still love her, it might push her away. if she says yes, maybe the two of you will click at the dance, maybe her feelings for you will come back. at the end of the night, if all goes well, then maybe you could tell her that you miss her.
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