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I don't know....
So...I am 15 (soon to be 16) and this past Saturday, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 3 months. His Dad found out and now I have a feeling that he is going to tell my mom. I want to tell her. I really do, but I think that she will be really disappointed in me. I was going to tell her tonight but I couldn't do it. Something told me that it wasn't a good idea, but then I get the feeling that I should because if she finds out from his dad, then she will be even more disappointed in me for the fact that I didn't tell her myself. I don't think she'll trust me ever again. And I have a feeling that she won't want me to see him anymore. I can already see what she is going to say. "You're only 15." or "How could you be so stupid?" or she will call me a slut...I don't know what to do. Should I tell her? Or not...
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Ok, so you slept with a guy. It's done, cannot change it, NEXT SUBJECT. You should absolutely tell your mom. She will get mad at you, but it will take of the HUGE amount of guilt that you are carrying around right now. (And it will be MUCH better for you to tell her rather than your boyfriends dad)
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You haven t done anything wrong. Dont feel bad about it.
If your mom is going to dislike you after that, then she is the one who has the problem not you.
Your fear is probably pointless. Why feel guilty if you haven t done anything sinfull?
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well, first of all, you should ask his dad to not tell your mom, and ask if he will let you tell her yourself because you want to. so just tell her. say something like, "i want to tell you something&i know you will be really disappointed in me, but i lost my virginity to my boyfriend, but [assuming that you used a condom] we used a condom and made sure we were safe&i`m really sorry, but i don`t know.. it just happened." she probably will me mad and won`t understand, but just give it some time. if she doesn`t want you to see him anymore, tell her why you want to see him. tell her why you like him so much&stuff. maybe then, she`ll understnad.
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Of course it would be best coming from you than from his dad. So, YES TELL HER.
If nothing else, she will know you are sexually active now, and will hopefully see that you are completely educated on prevention of STDs and pregnancy.
Since you are sexually active, you would be wise to get on birth control and your mom can help you. She may be more understanding than you give her credit for.
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if you don't want his dad to do it before you, or at all, tell her yourself. because you're right, she will be more disappointed in you if she hears it from someone else & not the person she was supposed to hear it from.
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if theres one thing i've learned in my life is that you cant hide anything from your mum. best to tell her so she doesn't find out from his dad.
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