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daddy and my weight (and etc.)
my dad always like criticizes me whenever i eat something. like all the time, unless its breakfast. like he says he always sees me eating when its not true, but usually im eating when hes around, but still. its really annoying because i can control it myself, and not really overeat alot, but it really pisses me off when hes like "no more supper for you, you already ate enough" because i ate dinner kinda early, and 5 hours later i just wanted a little more.. and that was like 1 hour ago. maybe i need to stop doing stuff like that cause sometimes i just eat not for hunger but for like.. because the food tastes good or something, and ive noticed i've gotten a little fatter, but im still okay and i do alot of sports too, so i can burn it off. but my dad is kinda stubborn and only thinks what he says is right. like when im eating i get bored so i read books, and my dad doesnt want me to do that.. he says i should eat first then read, and i tell him all the time that like its more efficent not to, and ive been doing it for years and the books never got stained. ugh but he doesnt reason. same with the eating thing. he doesnt wanna hear what i have to say after, which is how alot of times he misjudges the situation and stuff.. and then overreacts. the same with my mom sometims, but thats a different story. -sigh- i know im just a 13 year old kid so what much can i really do, and i dont have to clean old peoples shit in the hospital as a job (well thats what my mom said she does sometimes cause shes a nurse) but like seriously.. im sure this will all be good in the long run or whatever but my parents constantly are hard on me and its kinda annoying. they wont even let me go to or have sleepovers with my friends (only with family). just cause my parents never did that kinda thing when they were younger (they're cameroonian from africa.. different culture and such. i live in america now though). they worked hard to get us a good life here in america and blah blah, and i do work hard in school and stuff. and i may sound like a broken record... but like.. i dont know what to do sometimes. i want to go to summercamp, i know we dont have a whole lot of extra money for the really cool ones, but.. like my childhood is important too. i've never even been to it before. luckily i can do sports though, and other activities, but yeah.. and i havent even really gone shopping since last spring. i got like.. 3 pairs of pants and like 1-3 shirts inbetween on different days, but those don't really count.
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I know this sounds kind of snooty but you need to speak to your parents (If they arent busy) and see if they will hear the side of your story why you eat as much as you do I agree with you you should never misjudge anyone until you see the whole story and its just horrible when you get the blame so speak to your parents and maybe eat in between less
Hope you dont mind me saying that Sorry if i hurt your feelings
RainBow
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I would be willing to bet that your parents growing up in a COMPLETELY different culture than you are now has a lot to do with all of the things you are frustrated about. I imagine they are hard on you, because more than likely, their teen years were harder on them.
If your parents don't want to listen to your feelings on these subjects, the best thing I can think for you to do is suck it up and go with it as best as you can. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but you can't change people, their ways, their feelings, or the way they think.
Don't let the things your dad says to you about eating and such hurt your feelings. I doubt he would say anything if he didn't care and wasn't concerned about your health.
I know you are just a kid, and you have a ways to go, but before you know it, you will be 18 and considered an adult. You will then be able to make whatever decisions you want for yourself. I know the future doesn't help how it is now, but it gives you something to look forward to.
Remember: your parents love you, and you are lucky that they care so much about you. Maybe their care is a bit overboard, but it's really the thought and feeling behind it that counts. There are a lot of kids out there in this world who's parents are too wrapped up in their own lives to care what their kids do; Some kids do harmful things to themselves, and their parents have no clue, because their own children are strangers to them. Sad, sad fact about life.
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