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more than friends?
15/F
I may like this guy, and I think he likes me back, and all these people (people I don't even know, even!) have been asking if we're dating. We're not, though we do hang out a lot together since we're in the same friend group.
I guess mainly I'm confused because I have no experience with any of this. I just switched schools from a private, all-girls' school to a public co-ed arts school. I haven't actually had a guy friend in five years.
At first me and this guy were friends, and then I started having dreams of us together... found myself drawing him and writing love poems. And then I noticed when I was around him he would start getting tongue-tied, tripping over stuff, getting happier than he normally is... see the thing is... and lately his best friend (also in our friend group) was like "you know he's totally into you, right?" and "if you're interested he'd totally go along with it"
And I was like, "how?"
He's kinda the shy one, so I guess a lot of it's up to me in a sense. I'm just not sure what I'm supposed to do with how I've been feeling. What is dating anyway? What does it mean to be in a relationship or just more than friends?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
To be honest, being in a relationship is not much different from being really good friends with someone. It's actually a good way to look at it. Most of the time you spend with the person, especially in the beginning won't involve a whole lot of intimacy. It can grow into more with time, but to start, that's how it should be. The beginning of a relationship is about getting to know each other and having a good time together.
Don't worry, you're not that sheltered. Anybody that is inexperienced with dating will have similar thoughts and feelings as you. The average age to begin dating, I believe, is 14, so you really aren't that far behind.
What should you do with what you're feeling? Enjoy it! There's nothing you're "supposed" to do. The more you plan things out, you may feel disappointment when they don't go the way you planned, which reminds me of a quote that I absolutely adore. "Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have." Even though it's not love yet, the same rules apply. It's not always how you want it and the more you expect it to be, the more you'll take it for granted or fail to see that it's there at all.
My advice to you for getting through all of this is to just roll with it. Things are going along just fine for now. If you want to take the next step go ahead. You'll know when the time is right and you'll know what to say. Sponteniety is the best way to do this. Just keep in mind that honesty about your feelings will get you a long way. Good luck, even though it seems you won't be needing it! Things will go great. :)
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