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schools and boys, and everything.
i'm confused. i'm thirteen years old, and i have no idea what i'm doing.
I changed schools about a month ago, to a slightly smaller school. and was put into a class with mostly boys, and a few girls. I guess it's not your average school, it's filled with kids who've done some bad things. Involving drugs, or truancy. I guess that's not the point, but for background.
the boys are pretty graphic and innapropriate. One would walk by me and say "sexy" constantly and left a weird note in my desk, and one would compliment me on my shirt when it was tight. And one of them was really nice to me, being pretty protective of me if i lent someone somthing and they didn't give it back straight away. He was really nice to me, all in all. He threw away my garbage when he saw i hadn't yet, and helped me figure something out on a word search that i didn't know.
He's one year older than me, and i have no idea why he's at this school. A lot of people would bring it up that this boy liked me, and i guess i believed it, because i thought so myself. well, i got to liking him too.
it's continued on pretty much the same, but on friday, this girl Janet who's also in my class said to me, "You know, Charlie* was going to ask you out the first week you came here."
and i asked why he didn't.
"Because he thought you'd dis him, and since you two live in different towns, he wasn't sure it'd work out."
i don't know if he really said that, and i don't know how i feel about how he backed out of asking me so quickly. He still acts overly-nice with me, but i don't know where it's going to go. i can't understand if he likes me, and i can't understand why he isn't doing anything, or saying anything to me, directly.
any comments? i'm not so much asking for advice as much as a perspective, but advice is always something i'd take. Thanks.
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Hey. It seems to me that he likes you, and I would try to mkae your friendship with him stronger, then pop that question [if he does like you] into an everyday conversation, or have a friend ask him. anyways, good luck ♥ Kathleen
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He probably likes you, but is pretty shy about it. I think he wants to be sure that you like him before he goes and puts himself out there, because he's afraid of rejection. He probably thinks you like him, but isn't positive. From what I read, you haven't been sending him signals either way. It sounds like this boy really does like you, and is afraid that, if he asks you out, (1) you'll reject him, or (2) it wont work out. But I don't think that he meant it when he said that the distance was a problem.
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If he is only a year older than you, he will only be 14 himself. That is still quite young for some lads and maybe he is not very confident when it comes to dating. He may well have never dated before and doesn't know how to pluck up the courage to ask you out. Saying he thought you'd "dis" him and you live in different towns may well have been an excuse because he felt uncomfortable. He obviously still likes you, and if you have the courage, why not ask him to go for a coffee or coke as a thank you to him for being so nice to you. If that seems a bit too forward for the moment, why not give him a bar of chocolate or something similar and say it's a thank you for all his help.
I hope that all goes well with you. Good luck.
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