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My Issue. Annoying, Crazy; I gotta deal.
Ok So here it is;
My parents have been married for about 20 years now and had me and my 4 siblings.
Everything was goign greta until my dad strated acting weird...
Like he comes home really late
works on the sabbath (holiday where no electricity can be done) And he started to distint himsel fmore and more.
My mom started to do everything...
Drive us.,hoemwork,vacations etc.
He hardley comes on vacations becase of work and if he comes he coems really late.
We are all scard of my dada because as much as i love him when he yells (which is rarley) its really scary. So when hes home we nevr go in his room and always foolow his rules bc we are scard. So to as my mom, She is really scard of him i feeel and there marrige is getting wrose by the second. I can never have friends over bc my dad embarreses me by coming home on the sabbath. Now my dad hardley gives my mom money and my mom has to use her own money (doesnt a marrige mean JOINT effert, join the money?!!?)So now my mom has to fire our housekeeper and we are all going to haev to clean dishes,laudery etc (and we are all SPOLIED brats!!!) But thats not the main problem, i dont knw what to do. My mom speaks to ehr friends and faimly about it but the problem is yet to be solved. I do crys ometimes and thinking of them getting divroced makes me cry ieven harder. Just i wish things cud be easier and lighter,
But lifes tough i get it. Just i wish it wasnt.
Please any advice?
Appricate anything
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Most importantly, you have to realize that your parent's marital problems have NOTHING to do with you. They are not your fault. You are not causing your dad to be this way. Don't ever blame yourself. Don't ever let your siblings blame themselves. You are just stuck in the middle. I'm sorry for your position.
The only people who can resolve this is your mom and dad. There really isn't anything you can do to solve the problems they are having. It is between your mom and dad.
Maybe he is going through a mid-life crisis? I don't know.
The only thing I can think for you to do is try to make life easier for your mom. Put in an extra effort to pick up the chores your housekeeper did so she doesn't have to. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help out. Obviously she is under a lot of stress, and I'm sure she would greatly appreciate your volunteered help. It would make less for her to worry about.
Also, if you can, talk to your parents. Your dad may be hard to talk to, but you should express your feelings to at least your mom. It would be better if you could talk to both.
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