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Bringing girls in
I am a single guy just turned 33, on a visit overseas staying with my elder brother (Mid 40s), his wife (mid 40s)and 4 kids (oldest bening 16 year old girl, youngest being 4 year old boy) I have been staying with them for almost 3 months now, have made a few girlfriends who want to know my house and certainly would want to get physical, but I dont know if it is all right to bring girls to the house and in my room, my room not even having a key, even though i stay alone there and the younger kids have the habit of barging in. Kind of funny problem, right? And by the way, we are black Africans. Whites tend to be more liberal about this kind of things than blacks. Just wanna know what u guys think before I make a decision. Thanks as always, guys
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I guess in my opinion it really depends on the feelings of those you are staying with.
I know it's an awkward situation but I think you need to sit down with your brother and his wife and discuss the situation. Explain to them how great they have been letting you stay with them but that you don't know how to handle the situation where girlfriends are concerned because you don't know if it would be okay for them to come home with you.
If they don't seem to have a problem with it then there is no reason you couldn't have a lock put on your door, to keep out the innocent eyes of their children and allow you some privacy.
If they don't like the idea, at least you know there is nothing you can do about it and you will have to either remain celibate until you have a place of your own or return to the homes of your girlfriends at the end of the evening.
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I don't think its a good idea. Not when there's a chance of the kids just coming right in. You might talk it over with your brother and his wife also before you even think about it.
Just explain to the ladies that you are a guest in your brothers home, they have young children and it would be an uncomfortable situation. Honestly, having to listen for footsteps outside your door would be a real mood killer anyway.
Instead grab a motel room or, if you plan to stay for a while consider renting your own apartment if its affordable for you. :)
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