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My son is 25 and won't work or study
I have a son who will be 25 next week, he is lazy, sleeps all day, doesn not want to work or go to school, his only hobbies are pot and alcohol. He lives at home and it hurts me to see him waste his life, what can I do?
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As hard as this may be to do and hear it's time for tough love, you need to tell your son and stick to your guns that he has 3 choices, go to school - at least carrying a load of 4 courses, get a full time job with a minimum of 35 hours a week or move out. By allowing him to stagnate where he is you are enabaling him to be well nothing. Doing this does not mean you don't love him or care it means you care and love him enough to ensure he becomes at least a moderate success.
If you issue this ultimatum and cave you will never get him out of the house, if he refuses to leave you will need to ensure he does, by changing the locks when he goes out and packing for him. He will be angry but this will be best for him in the long run. Make sure you give him a date to accomplish this by I would suggest a one month deadline.
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Sara
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