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Stuck In The Middle
Hey. I just met two of my good friends from school this year. They're both really nice. Lets just say their names are Jody and Samantha. The problem is that Samantha always likes to make fun of Jody. She's only joking around because I know she really likes Jody a lot but I can tell it bothers Jody. Samantha doesn't really notice it bothers her because she thinks that it's all in good fun. I don't know why she doesn't do it to me too but she doesn't, and they met eachother a few weeks before I met them. At first they both used to make fun of eachother (you know stupid jokes) but now I can tell Jody really doesn't like it. Samantha always includes me in this when she's joking on Jody and she'll always be like "Lori look at Jody" and laugh or she'll pretend to whisper something. It looks like I'm involved whenever she does this. Then, Jody will ask me what she said later and since it's so stupid I just tell her but then say something like "but she was only kidding". Then Jody will go and say to Samantha "Lori told me what you said" and it looks like I'm starting trouble. But if I don't laugh at Samantha it will look like I'm some uptight wierdo even though Jody doesn't like it. And like I said I know that when they are having a normal convo, they're the best of friends so Samantha's not doing it to purposely be cruel. Does anyone have any ideas so that I'm not always stuck in the middle or so that I look like I'm always siding with one of them? I really like them both and I feel bad when this happens. Thanks so much in advance and I know this is soo petty and stupid but I know you guys will give great advice! =) Thanks!
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TELL SAMANTHA TO STOP MAKING FUN OF PEOPLE INCLUDING JODY. IF SHE KEEPS DOING THAT DON'T LAUGH AND SAY THAT WAS NOT FUNNY UNLESS IT IS THEN IF SHE CALLS YOU A WEIRDO SAY IF YOU THINK IM A WEIRDO THEN DON'T BE MY FRIEND AND IF SHE SAYS NO I WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND THEN TELL HER STOP MAKING STUPID AND MEAN JOKES.
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i think you should talk to them. sit them down, and ask jody if it bothers her. if it says yes, just tell samantha that you could tell it did, and you always feel like you`re caught in the middle. ask samantha to try not to make the little joke and stuff anymore.
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I think i have a good idea well i hope. When you're alone with Samantha maybe you should ask her does she still like Jody? we all no that as we grow old some friendships just dont work out. If she says she does still like her ask why she does tease her and say imagine if she was teasing her. tell her it gets annoying and its ver immature. if she doesnt like jody and more tell her thats really rude and mean to tease her even if she doesnt like her. also tell her i dont like it because she is still my friend no matter what. this may seem lame but give it a shot and if things dont work out at least you will know who your TRUE friends are.
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You should talk to Jody privately soon, tell her that if she doesn't want to tolerate Samantha's joke, she shouldn't have to. Jody should tell her that. and also, you shouldn't be dragged in the middle of these things. thats not fair to you. hope it helps.
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