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Getting Married.. Or Not?!
First of all, I'm 18 and if you're going to tell me I'm too young to get married don't bother answering. I'm very mature for my age and my fiance (Eric) and I have been together since we were 14 and 17. Anyways, Eric proposed to me in March of 2006. He is in the Navy, and he is living in Virginia. Right now, I'm still living in Michigan. I'm moving down to live with him in May. On June 9th we were planning to go to the Jusice of Peace and elope. We're doing this so that we can save our basic housing money (from being married) to spend on our cerimonial wedding that we plan on having on virginia beach sometime in august 2008. This is the wedding all our friends and family will attend.
The only problem, is that my mother is going psycho on me and keeps telling me not to get married. She says I'm too young, and that I'm going to ruin my life. She also says if we go toa Justice of Peace and get married she wont pay for ANYTHING for our cerimonial wedding next year, because she feels people should only get married one time.
Now I'm in a sticky situation. I really want to get married this summer so I can afford things easier and I know I should follow my heart; but I don't want to ruin my relationship with my mom. I KNOW I'm going to marry Eric, I couldn't picture my life without him.. I just wish my mom could see that and that she could see how happy we make eachother and accept our choices. What do you think I should do?! =(
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In my opinion, I agree with you and I think you should follow your heart. If you two really love each other, and he's a great guy who you can see spending your life with, then I think you definitely should get married this June.
I understand, you not wanting to ruin the relationship between you and your mother, but I think this is where you really have to go with what you feel is best. I know, eighteen may not be the oldest age, but you do have a right to do what makes you happy and comfortable. And sometimes, your mom isn't going to like what you're doing (that happens to all of us), but sometimes you just have to do what's best for you.
I would talk to her about it, and explain to her that you love her and you respect her opinion. However, this time you have to do what's best for you.
I wish you nothing but the best of luck, I'm sure that everything will work out for you! Congrats on getting married!
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Well I got married when I was not quite 18. Also on June 9th! I am still married so I'm not going to tell you not to. By the way his name is also Eric...this is really wild!
If it were me, I would get married in June like you want to. The other ceremony...forget about it. Mom doesnt want to pay for it that's her choice. Just throw a big party for friends and leave it at that.
Ceremony is way over rated. :)
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first of all your an adult so i would hope that you would be mature and its your life and really noone elses business what you do. who are they? if you want to get married you should do it your mom will eventually accept it and get over it. but you might have to hold off on the second marriage or pick up an extra job and pay for it your self. since your a mature adult which i 100% agree with that you should be able to pay for what you want and take care of what you need.when you do that then people might reconize you more as an adult when your taking care of your own business and you might get more support. if it was me i would just not care what anyone thinks because theyre just being negative and why should you base your life on their opinion. but if you want to get married now which i see no problem with then you might have to put off the second wedding until you can afford it ,do it somewhere else thats cheaper, or pick up an extra job or two so you can afford it.i dont think you should let your mothers difficulties interfere with your decision if that is whats going to make you truly happy then so it be her own issue. you shouldnt be scared of how someones going to act towards you when it comes to making your own personal decision that really doesnt effect them.but it is your mothers choice not to pay anything and your going to have to respect that if your going to do things your way.if your mom lets this ruin you twos relationship then thats her loss because its not hurting anyone and its your life not your moms or anyone elses. ever heard the saying if you want something done you gotta do it your self..well that might be the case...personally i think thats the best way to do something..that way noone can say their entitled to imput in your life. if you and your mom are close and love eachotherthen it shouldnt do any damage to your relationship that cant be repaired.
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I defintely think you should wait. You already know you love Eric, and you are going to spend the rest of your lives together.. so why does it matter when you get married?
Besides, if you wait your whole family and all of your friends can share the moment you two finally tie the knot. It will be very traditional and romantic. Plus you want to maintain your good relationship with your mom, running off to secretly get married doesn't sound like it would go over to well with her.
I say you wait, you both love each other and your going to spend the rest of your lives together so just enjoy the time right now planning a big wedding for next year.
I hope this helped and good luck.
Congrats in advance for the day when you and Eric do marry :)
-Katie
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o wow tough situation...well the only thing that can help right now is telling her all the things you just us. About affording things, hes the right guy etc. I cant think of anything else right now but when i do ill just additional stuff to my answer. I Tried!
-Krazy
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