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Between a rock and a hard place.
(14, female)
My past boyfriend and I broke up about three
weeks ago after he cheated on me with the girl
I already disliked. After the breakup, I became
good friends with my old boyfriend, Michael.
My best friend, Annie, had a huge drinking
problem last year, and got to the point where
she had 30 minutes to live after alcohol
poisining. After about 9 months of trying
to change her around, she broke our trust and
drank again.
So to get me through the problems, Michael and
I became best friends again. At one point I
totally fell for him when I realized how great
he was. But I'm having such a hard time trusting
people after my latest problems, I'm not sure
what to do. I love him to death, as my best
friend. He's planning on asking me out soon,
because I told him I liked him to get my
mind off of my ex who cheated on me.
Now, I want to keep him as my best friend,
I'm not ready to trust another person with
my heart like that just yet. I'm not sure how
to tell him, I don't want to hurt him or scare
him away. I really can't lose him, I need
him right now. What should I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
well. your in a tough sitch.
if you love him like you say
heartbreak wont be on your mind.
if you are worried though say
" i like you as more than a friend
but i need to understand my feelings
more "
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You should probably tell him BEFORE he asks you out. Tell him that you like him, but you really aren't ready to be more than friends because you're still so torn over your past relationship and how it ended. Just be honest with him and if he's worth anything at all, he'll understand. Then you guys can go back to being just friends and if things progress later, then see how you feel about it all then, but just be upfront and honest now BEFORE anything happens so that you can save everyone from too many problems and emotional dilemmas.
Good luck!
<3 Elle
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You should tell him upfront.
Tell him that you really like him and you can possibly see yourselves together in the near future but you're not ready to go out with someone yet because you're still sore from your recent heartbreak.
Explain to him how hard it was to tell him that. Tell him that you don't want to be a tease and you don't want to hurt him but he's been a really good friend and you want to keep him close to you.
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