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Mom not caring
I'm 16 and a junior in high school. I live with my mom and younger brother. I am involved in a lot of my high school's drama productions and am also a member of the dance team. My mom wants me to switch out of drama (she says it's making me miserable, but it's one of the few places I really enjoy myself) and she doesn't like my being on dance team, not because of grades, etc. just because it's her opinion. Anyway, I have had 8 drama performances, and she only went to three. One I was sick, , and then she left without picking me up because she said I was taking too long. My aunt made her come to one, and the third she went to see her friend's son. She refused to come to the only two performances I asked/begged her to (I had a lead role) and won't let me invite my dad.
My mom hasn't come to any of my dance performances and wouldn't because she'd have to leave work for 15 minutes. Her work is on the same block as my school so it's not like it's a long drive!
Freshman year I tried out for the school talent show ( a pretty big deal) and made it, but I told both my mom and dad about it. My mom found it I told my dad and wouldn't let me go. At 8:00 (the exact time the show started) she finally said I could go, but it was too late, I was supposed to be the first act. Sophomore year she wouldn't let me try out.
Now she wants to come to my next dance performance because I invited my dad, but she's trying to make me feel bad because she'd miss part of work. At this point it's not going to make a difference. I would have been thrilled two years ago, but now I don't want her to come. If I say that, she'll come just to piss me off. How can I make sure she won't come?
Sorry this is so long, but it's kind of complicated. Thank you if you actually read the whole thing.
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I myself have been acting for quite a while (Im 16 now) and if I have one thing to say to you, it is "DO WHAT YOU WANT-NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS/DOES"
Seriously, acting makes me happy, the adrenaline rush sitting backstage on opening night, and if it does that for you too, then keep on at it.
Sit down and have a talk with youre mom, ask her why it is she so opposses your passion, and make it clear that this is what you love, and that this is what you will do weather or not you have a supporting mother that cares about her daughter and would like to see her child thrive (I think that might send a little message).
Dont let her make you feel bad, you're not forcing her to miss work to come to your play, you're just doing what you love. If anything you should make her feel bad for not supporting the child she BIRTHED.
If she is still unreasonable, talk to youre dad because he seems more open.
Oh, and dont worry if she comes to your performance, youre doing this for you, not her.
Any more questions/thoughts/concerns I'd be more than willing to chat about.
But whatever happens, please, do what you feel is best for you, and what makes you feel good.
Break a leg!
-L
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Well babe, you need to talk to your mom. I know you have talked to her but I think if you make it 100% clear you ond;t want her to come and you tell her why, she might understand. I can never imagine what it feels like to be you right now, but I think you just need to talk to her and let her know what you think. Hope that helps and if you have any more questions just let me know k
Love Meg
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