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turnabout and its dilemas for shy girls
14/F
(sry this is so long)
hi!!, okay, so, im really shy when it comes to guys. especially with this one in particular. we are in the same english class and are sort of friends. we WERE in the same studyhall peer group (where seniors come and hang out with us freshman and just hang out during our free time in studyhall), but now that the semester is over, he's switching into a new class, and we will no longer have studyhall or peer group together. (we will still have english togehter though!) i REALLLLLLLLY want to ask him to turnabout/sadie hawkens dance, but i'm WAY TO SCARED!! :( your probably wondering what the real issue is, but there are two HUGE ONES...
in peer group, we did this activity, and we just had to answer honestly and then share our answers with the group. the question was: what is one thing that you will never forget? his answer was this girl at his old jr. high. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN??? does he still like her, is he dating her? i just can't seem to figure this out.
the other issue is that for homecoming, he didn't ask anybody because #1, he's shy also, but more importantly, #2, he doesn't like dances. this is the big dilema. i can't seem to figure out if he said this because he truely doesn't like dances, or was just to shy to ask someone.
i would really like someone's opinion on this (guys also please) on what to do. if i ask him, its gotta be soon becuase the dance is in about 3 weeks.
(if i do end up askin this guy, and he says no, or i just chicken out, i have an alternative guy to ask, that wants me to ask him) is using this guy as a fall back slash backup a bad thing??
thanks so much, and again, im so sorry this is so long.
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Okay, when he said "This girl at his old jr high" he meant that the girl he was thinking about was and is still special to him. There's not much chance that he'd be still going out with her. She may have been his bff or an old gf. Who knows? He probably thinks of ehr as special but I don't know if he still has feelings for her or not. And don'tworry about it.
Next, write down your "Wanna go with me?" question on a piece of paper. Write:
Just wanted to know if you'd like to go to the dance with me. And don't say you won't because you can't dane or don't like the dances because I can't dance either and the dances are a blast and how would you know if they're fun or not if you don't go to them? *smiley face* It'll be awesome, I promise soo will you say yes or no? (Preferably a yes? =P)
Or something like that. Give it to him the last time you'll see him before the weekends. Like if he's in your last class on Friday, give it to him then so he can think about it over the weekend.
And if he turns you down, go to the other guy that wants to go out with you. It's not a bad thing. It's called using your resources wisely...
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