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The infamous question. haha
Okay I know that this has been asked before but here it goes... my best friend has a boyfriend who she's been going out with for almost two years and I'm really happy for her because she's a great person and all and so is he, and they're really happy together. But the thing is, I feel like she puts him ahead of my other friends and me. For example, I had a theatre show that I performed in and she knew how important it was to me, but at the very last minute, she called me and told me she couldn't go because she was hanging out with her boyfriend. I got really mad and sometimes, when I think about how all of my other friends came and my best friend didn't, I still get mad. But now it's like all they do is hang out with each other and we don't hang out as much as we used to... if she has a choice to hang out with her closest friends or boyfriend, she'll always pick her boyfriend, hands down. And lately, it seems like she only hangs out with us when her boyfriend is busy. I don't know, I think I'm being a little selfish sometimes about this, and yes, I do have a lot of other friends I can hang out with, but she's my best friend and of course I'm happy for her but geez it's not like their newlyweds, it's a high school relationship. Any advice??
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If they have been going out 2 years then its a pretty serious relationship.
The thing is that once a girl gets a boyfriend, the other friends aren't number one anymore. That's just the way it is once a relationship gets serious.
That doesn't mean she needs to ditch her other friends every time. You need to talk to her and tell her how much it hurt you that she didn't come. It might help if next time you have something you want her to attend, ask her and her boyfriend.
I know it is upsetting but one day you will be acting the same. Try to have patience with her. And do talk to her and let her know how you feel. Maybe you can have a girls day out where its just you and her out having fun. Make it once a week, or whatever fits your schedules. :)
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id say to your best friend that if she doesn;t spend more time with you then you wont hang out with her
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