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Can my mother ever trust me??
Awright, 16/f. Three of my friends and I are starting a band (ska/punk, if it matters), and we've got some huge plans for this. It's a common dream. Music brought us all together and all that stuff. Well, the only problems is that all of these friends are boys who are 19 or older and my mom either doesn't like them or hasn't met them. They're good guys and I know I'm completely safe around them, but I know that my mom wouldn't approve of them because they're punks. It's gotten to the point where I had to lie to be able to hang out with them, telling mom that i had different plans.
How can we make this band work if my mom decides she doesn't want me hanging out with the guys? Or how to I make it so she can meet them and approve without them having to change their tastes? PLease help!
Thanks,
-JJ Girl
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Dear JJ Girl-
find some way that they can meet with your mom.....maybe ask if they can just hang out and maybe chat with your mom....of course warn them first! if your mom still feels uncomfortable, arrange a couple more meetings. take it slow, and be patient. if you are too pushy your mom just might say no and that could be the end of it.
also, try having your mom call their mmos or something and talk to them.
if they truely are good guys....your mom shouldn't have a problem with them. its understandable that she be uncomfortable with you being around older guys....lol.
another thing-try not to lie anymoer! if she finds out that you lied to her about what you were doing and where you were going, she might also just say no, that being the end of it.
hope i helped!
~*Katie*~
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Try to explain to your mother that not everything is as it seems to be. Sometimes we narrow our vision by seeing only stereotypes instead of people. If your mom doesn't like guys you're hanging out with, try to let them know each other better in a way that would be comfortable for everyone. Maybe it's better to let your mom meet them one by one, so she wouldn't see them only as a group of punks.
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well my mom is the same way but she dont dislike them she just worries about what if they really arent safe.maybe your mom feels the same way.
anyways answering your question talk to your mom and tell her how much this means to you and ask if its ok if you invite them over so she can get to know them.Maybe thats all it is and if she just dosent want you to be with them..well i know this might not be the best advice yet ima say it...if this is your dream live it 2 its fullest no matter what! sure your mom will be mad but youll still be her daugther!haha well hope it works out=]
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