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this guy loves me
im interested in a guy who lives in ITALY.
and i live in florida.
(i didnt meet him over the internet though)
anyways, we talk alot and i think i love him.
and he says he loves me.
but i told him that it would never work because he lives so far away.
and plus this girl that lives by him that is always coming aver and hand-cuffing him and giving him blow jobs.
ugh. she makes me angry.
and i couldnt trust her.
but he says he'll never get over me.
that he would give anything just to be with me.
he also begs me to give him a chance, because he can make long distance work.
i dont know what to do because i dont want to hurt him anymore.
but i just want to be his friend
because hes really cool.
but i cant go out with him.
theres just no way.
please help???
what do i tell him???
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
First question- How old are you?
Second question- if you 'didn't meet him over the internet though' how do you know him? People don't just KNOW people halfway across the earth.
Third question- If you can't trust HER and she's always around--how do you know you can trust HIM?
Fourth question- How do you know she really is 'handcuffing him and giving him blowjobs'? Do you realise how unrealistic that sounds.
'Oh my God. I'm gonna come into your house and handcuff you to something so I can give you a blowjob.'
Besides, unless he's old enough to not live with his family, couldn't he not answer the door or tell them to not answer the door? Couldn't they LOCK their doors?
from experience, long distance DOESN'T work, at all. I've had several and the only one that's worked is the one that I have right now. I see him almost every day and on the weekends.
Know why it works? Because what could this guy in 'Italy' do for you that a boy in florida couldn't? Could the boy in Italy hold your head or kiss you or hold you or take you out to eat? I don't think so.
Tell him just what you stated in your question, you sound like a smart girl.
"You're really cool, but I can't go out with you. There's just no way that I think I can go 'out' with you. Because, in all honesty, when you're 'dating' or 'going out' with someone, you sound a little stupid when you aren't EVER together."
Long distance CAN'T work end of story.
UNLESS, of course, you visited each other often and you trusted each other.
Face it, it doesn't sound like either one of you have that kind of cash, AND do you seriously think your parents would understand you were going out with a guy from ITALY? That's a million miles away! Think about phone bills, too. What if you ever wanted to hear his voice?
Do you really think that both sets of parents would be too keen on paying the bills? Because it doesn't sound like you're old enough be making enough cash for that, either.
Hope it helps--just remember to break it to him gently.
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you tell him exactly what your feeling. don't beat a round the bush, just tell it to him straight. If he hears it how it is, he'll figure it out. Explain to him that thats not what your want right now, but you don;t want to loss the friendship. He may not be able to have a friendship and nothing more, but thats something that you just might have to deal with. good luck.
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