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My dad has always been the same. He's always happy one minute and angry the next. Ever since I can remember he's "spanked" me as hard as he could. He's always argued with my mom. He's always treated me unfairly. Always blamed things on me. When I was about 10 or 11, my parents got divorced. It didn't really affect me all that much. I was actually kind of happy. I mean, I thought my parents arguing would stop. I thought all those times were my dad would yell at my mom and push her up against the wall would stop. Of course I was wrong. It's been almost 6 years now, since they first got a divorce and my dad's remarried and my mom has a pretty steady boyfriend. My dad's always working. When he's not working his regular shift, he's working over time. One thing that always seemed to bug me about him is the way he always yells at me...but not just that he does it. Its that no matter how much its not my fault and how much it's my brother's fault, he always blames it on me. He favors my brother. The other night my dad came over to pick me up and take me to his house because it was his weekend to take me and my brother. I got packed and went out in the car and put my stuff in the trunk. My dad was going to let my brother go to the skate park and I was angry because when ever I ask to do anything he always tells me no. And I was telling him how I felt about that. He told me not to talk to him like that and I was afraid he was going to slap me or something like that so I got out of the car and told him I wasn't coming to his house and got my clothes out of the trunk and went back in to my house. At that point, he wasn't even trying to get me to come to his house, he didn't care. My mom told him to come in and talk to me so he did. I told him how he made me feel and he still didn't even try to convince me to go to his house. I told him to get out of my house but he wouldn't. My mom told me to go to my room and settle down. I heard my mom talking to my brother and so I thought he was gone, so I came out. My dad was still there. The next thing I know, my dad tells me this is all my arugment is all my fault and he has my mom up against the wall held by her sweatshirt. He finally leaves and my mom has a bruise on her neck...so she finally decides she should call the cops because it's not the first time it's happened. Now my dad might get arrested. I don't know how I should react to that. I feel like crap. It's all my fault. My brother's going to hate me. So is my stepmother. I'm afraid of what's going to happen to me if my dad gets locked in jail and how he'll react when he gets out. Over all, I'm just scared. Scared of everything that might happen. I have no clue what to do.
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its not your fault. your dad needs to be in jail. if he doesn't sooner or later, he might do something WAY worse. if your stepmorther begins to hate you, she really needs to rethink this. and if your brother begins to hate you for this too, he shouldn't. i don't think he would if that happened. he should understand about what was going on. that he was abusing your mother, and sooner or later, he might've started abusing you, or him.
i would try starting a journal. write down your thoughts and feelings for when you go through this, it can help. also, try going to a therapist or a counslor to help you threw this.
hope i helped :)
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my dad was really abusive. what really important some ones life or someones feelings.you guys are in danger someone need to call the police.he needs to be arrested he could turn on your brother and your step mom. if they get mad then they should be ashamed.its not your fault hes a scum bag and theres no excuse for it.if he reacts worse then hell be in jail again fear is a weakness that hes using against you as a weapon dont give in.its not your fault hes like that.everyone is responsible for thir own actions and i think its time he accepts the consequences
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It's not your fault. Your dad got himself in this situation and if someone tries to blame you for the consequences he brought upon himself, they're just stupid. You were jsut expressing your feelings and your dad couldn't handle the fact.
Your stepmother---if she doesn't understand, tell her that if you'd rather have someone who will hurt her in the future out of jail hurting others, then she has some serious thinking to do. As for you brother, tell him that if he gets mad at you for "making" this happen, ask him if he enjoys seeing your mom getting hurt because of your dad.
It's NOT your fault at all. You should go to www.safeyouth.org and talk to someone on there. Talk to your mom that you're afraid that your stepmom, brother, and dad are going to blame you for everything and are going to get mad and you are just overall afraid of what will happen between you and your dad now.
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