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my sister
I'm 14/f and my sister is 19/f. It's ironic how I'm more mature about things than she is. Everytime break starts and she come home, whether it's Thanks Giving, Winter, Spring, Summer break, it's always disastrous and I can never relax.
My sister complains and gets mad over the smallest things. Over Thanks Giving Break, which was about 2 weeks for her, she got braces and oh my goodness. It was horrible. She would barely eat, she would complain, mop around, lock herself in her room for getting stupid braces. She was like "I can't eat. It takes 30minutes just to floss" blah blah..for 2 weeks and MORE. I must say that a 10 year old wouldn't whine so much. That really got my mom pissed off because she was buying stuff for my sister and making all these soft foods just for her to make her feel better and my sister just turned away complaining. And when my mom is mad, I have to watch what i do around her. When she's mad, she's likely to go off at anyone at anytime so it's like I always have to help her during breaks, watch what I say and do and I can't go and hang out with friends as much because my mom won't be in the mood to drive me. Then there's the problem with my sister getting pissed off at every single thing that doesn't go her way. If she wanted this and someone said no, she'll get pissed off, lock herself in her room for days, and get everyone in the house pissed off. I mean if she wanted to get , let's say a coffee from starbucks, and my mom said no, she'll get pissed off. If she wanted to help me practice violin and I decline NICELY (because, personally, she is horrible at teaching and when I tru to tell her that she's going too fast or something, she'll get pissed and say "Well you should've practiced more blah blah") she gets pissed off and locks herself in her room. This is getting really old and I don't knwo what to do about it. I can't talk to my sister because I'll just make it worse and if I talk to my mom or dad, my dad won't do much about it, and my mom will either just get pissy about that or talk to my sister which will still mak things worse. Any suggestions on what I should do to get her not get pissed so easily?
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She might be a brat. Or she might be suffering from depression or another mental illness.
Before I was put on anti-depressants, I behaved in much the same way (although perhaps not as blatantly aggressive). The littlest things would bother me and I would go and lock myself in my room because I felt like such utter crap. And then when I thought about it later, I of course felt even worse for over-reacting.
There's not a whole lot you can do. But instead of talking about that, you might try asking her how she's feeling sometime, or initiating a conversation about something you two have in common. That way you'll hopefully at least have some pleasant interaction.
Try to be forgiving of her. What she's doing isn't right, but if it IS the result of mental illness, it isn't something she can entirely control.
I hope things work out for you.
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i personally kno wat ur goin through ma sista is like dat 2.and i jus wanna kill her.she thinks she's grown so she don't listen 2 ma parents any more.and ma olda sister's dat are olda than her she think she kno more jus cuz she went off to college n they wanted to go to colleges by home.so all i can really say is try to act like she's not there only come in contact and speak wit her if it's really important.and when she get pissy ignore her she's doin it 4 attention
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Actually there's nothin' you can do to not agravate her. That's just the way she is, its within her. I suggest you should tell her how you feel and tell her to take it, process it, and change it. I mean if she does this all the time.. the whole family should just ignore her and she'll be over it. She just wants attention. She's 19, 5 yrs older than you. But she acts like a spoiled brat, and childish. Let her know how immature she is. She's older, she should set an example for you. You look up to her.. so let her know she needs to get her act up and stop complaining. The more she complains and whine... it doesn't make anything better, just worst. So I think you should be straight up with her. Also tell her .. its the truth and even if she gets mad.. its still true. Truth hurts.. that's the way life goes. If she doesn't like it then do something to change it.
I know its harsh. but she needs to know. you can't be nice and happie go lucky to her when she's being a brat. Well good luck and let me know how it goes.
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