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Lets say your mother or father, or sister, etc says something to you and then they explain what they meant, however, you still are upset so you go to this website or another one like this to get reassurance that everything is ok do you feel that you still need an explanation again from your mother, father, sister, etc. or do you put the remarks behind you and say everything is ok. And why do you feel this way. Thanks
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Okay. I understand how it can be upsetting when someone says something to you that bugs you. It's good to get a little extra reassurance, but I think there comes a point where you need to just drop it and stop dwelling on it. It isn't healthy to dwell on it for a month, let alone a year.
No matter how many times you ask us, you will still get the same answers you have printed to refer to. We just have to keep repeating and repeating and repeating. Saying the same thing over and over.
Listen. Put it behind you. Every time someone says something to you that sounds a little off, put it away in a little box in your mind for later disposal. Then get rid of it. Clean it clear out of your mind.
I feel this way because I think you are just torturing yourself. You stew and stew and stew, but what does it do for you other than make you feel bad? It makes you feel bad about yourself. If others are actually aiming to do that, you are letting them win.
You will be much better off and feel much better about yourself if you stop taking things people say to heart. No matter who it is that says it. No matter what it is they say.
Hey, I'm quite blunt. My honesty is sometimes brutal. Do you fret and stew over what I say? I sure hope not- what would be the point of that? What I say to you is purely opinion, just like what these other people say to you.
The only opinion about you that should really matter is your opinion of yourself. I worry that your self opinion isn't the best, as in you are your own worst critic. I think that opinion would improve by leaps and bounds if you would just stop worrying over what others think about you.
Take a long look in the mirror. Do you like who you see? Can you find anything you like about that person? If the answer to these questions is no, then you aren't even seeing yourself. You are only seeing ugly reflections of what you think other people think you are. You aren't being fair to yourself. Hell, you aren't even giving yourself a chance.
You deserve to be happy with yourself, and who cares what anyone else has to say about it. Even me.
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Is this about someone's mom saying that they are too skinny?
Get over yourself, regardless. Don't effing dwell on the past so much. Good grief.
I don't repost questions because it bugs everyone of substance on this site. In a little bit, you won't care anymore, anyway.
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