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phone talkingg
okay so i have a problem.. i'm not a big phone talker, so when my boyfriend calls me i never seem to have anything to say.. he says it's a big problem that whenever we get on the phone i don't really talk. the thing is, i 've never been big on talking on the phone. and now my boyfriend is upset because he doesn't think i like to talk to him.. that's not the case at all! and i'm really upset about this so my question is.. does anyone have anything or any tips when talking on the phonee i could reallyy use ANYYY help!! thanks
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I'm not sure if this will help at all, but have you told him that you're not really into talking on the phone? You should explain this to him, so he doesn't feel hurt when you don't talk to him. You can also add, that for him you're willing to talk on the phone. The only thing I could suggest about the actual conversation would be to listen to what he has to say, and just ask him questions about that and take an interest in what he's talking about.
good luck!
Teacup
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next time you are on the phoen with him; you should reall yjust like..laugh during silent then just say alll that. how you not a big phoone talker..and its nothing against him ect..mayeb then he'll make it .. "easier" for you?
haha.
i personaly; love talking to my bf on tehphone; i can do it 24/7..but tahts because we have a .. half hour long distance relationship..
but really.. you can even cover up a good "awee. what you dont like takling to me?" with a "ya.. but i just rather be talking to you in person" or "ohh, sorry, i was just thinkina bout ya.."
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first of all he should be okay with anything you dislike because you are being honest with him. that is really a plus because you could have told him good ridins because he liked to talk too much on the phone. realizing that you actually are very honest should have him smiling and not complaining. also how dare he.....doesnt he realize that it is just as much a problem for you that he talks on the phone too long as it is for him that you don't talk long enough? don't you think he is a bit biased,or one sided. he should not be upset, this is something you are not used to doing. try chatting online with him sometimes instead. it is much more fun and it is easier to be like," well love ya ,ttyl "it will make you all closer. it worked for me to build a relationship before. as far as while you are on the phone. when it gets quiet, he doesn't have anything to say either. try saying something on the lines of "well, honey, I really am ready to get off the phone now.... or.... i love you talk to ya tomorrow, kisses .... or.... no, you hang up first, no you hang up first....giggles..."it worked for me!!
hope i helped.
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Holy wow, the EXACT same thing happened to me,
but anyways,
You should tell your boyfriend that this is just a problem that you have.
Talk about things that you have in common that you like, or what happened that day at school, etc.
Normal things that you'd talk about when you're not on the phone-whatever seems interesting!
Hope I Helped! & Good luck!!
-Jam
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