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he wants to have sex
ok well how about this........i am going to start from the beginning if that is ok with u.......we met 3 summers ago doing a summer musical, so we have been friends about 3 and a half years. I am going to use names to make it easier to understand. I met my two best friends Jake and Laura the summer after my freshman year. Laura seemed quiet and Jake was a little preppy. I was a little closer to Jake then Laura during this play.....but as a couple plays went by we were the three musketeers and were unseperable. Laura and jake started to hang out more without me and whenever I was with Jake alone it was just weird because Laura and him became better friends that he and i were. But School came around and jake and his preppy friends started to hang out again and Laura became my best friend. Let me explain Laura for a sec....... her parents are older and very over protective, she is kinda sheltered, very thin and when she wears her contacts and straitens her hair she is very pretty....she became a depressed freak, all she would talk about was how ugly she was and how stupid she was and how she was depressed from her parents or jake because he was hanging out with his preppy friends too much or anything like that......she made me so depressed I cried myself to sleep every night.....but she was my best friend so i tried my hardest to help her. She confessed to me one day that she loved jake and she had liked him since our first show together and that she really really loved him.... so the next play came around and us three started to hang out more again but this time i was really close to jake and laura....whenever laura got on my nerves i would hang out with jake....it was kinda refreshing and cool since i could finally hang out with him alone and be comfortable...laura and jake became like him and i were they couldnt hang out alone it was just to weird.....laura actually told me one day that every best friend she had ever had used her and after awhile thought she was weird so just stopped talking to her. I promised her i would never do that. But she got more and more annoying every day......and that just pulled jake and i closer together...he eventually found out that she liked him and he started to like her even though they were the farthest apart they had ever been, they started dating at the beginning of this school year(mine and lauras senior year...jake is only a sophmore) and jake bought her a promise ring (very expensive)....her parents were very upset when she got that... she just got really weird and obsessive over jake and her and jake broke up... he admitted that he really didnt like her that much and the ring wasnt a promise ring it was just a friendship ring. Her depression finally got a little better but mine got worse because she would make me feel like crap.....so one day i just told her in the nicest way possible that we couldnt be friends anymore because i just couldnt deal with the depression she put on me.....i felt bad because she said all of her friends do that to he but i have to and now its just me and jake and we are closer that ever(and i am the happiest i have been in a long time...without laura...it was the right thing to do). (Laura had always been a goodie girl and we just found out like 2 weeks ago that she got fingered on the bus, we were shocked) anyways my friend kendra told me that jake said something about liking me and the funny thing was that i had been thinking about it lately but we just havent told each other......(at the end of the summer before Laura and my senior year i had a party while my parents were gone and laura was invited but didnt come she was too good to drink her mom would find out she said...( i respected that)....this was my first time drinking and my 28 yr old brother bought the alcohol.... that night jake said something to me and kendra that we were shocked to hear... that he wanted my brother....he wouldnt stop about it all night......the next few weeks when him and laura were dating he regreted more than ever saying what he did and kendra and i were fine with it.....we didnt tell anyone and it stayed between us(laura didnt even know).....now its jake and i with us hiding how we like eachother....but new years eve jake kendra and i went to my grandmas(my brother lives with my grandma)....she gave us a couple glasses of wine and jake (with not a very good alcohol tolerance) got really wasted....all of a sudden him and my brother were playing darts and kendra told me that he had said it again and i was in a way heart broken but in a way shocked that he would say that again....thats when we talked and he said that he really really liked me but just liked my bro when he was drunk....i spent hours and hours at my grandmas cleaning his puke and wiping his mouth and being a good friend... i wasnt drunk at all and when we left my grandmas all he talked about was that he wanted to have sex with me that night.... and how he was going to get me drunk(were both still virgins by the way)...and i kinda wanted to....(we had been talking about going to prom together also)...but we went back to my house and he sobered up and we ended up not doing anything...
I just found out like a month ago that i have to move 45 minutes away after i graduate jake and i have cried alot about that but we are going to try to stay in touch even though i'll be in college.. lately we have been talking about prom and we talked about having sex and that i would rather have my first time now with him then go to college and be drunk one night and do it with someone i dont really know and regret it...we had been talking about this until he said that new years night again and now i really dont know what to do...and i have thought about him being bi and i am ok with that...and i would wait it out like u said if he didnt want to do that and i just dont know what to do.....?? sorry i told u like my whole life story but i have been dieng to tell someone and let out everything for awile...thanks for your time and listening to my problem
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Heh, okay so Jake saying something about your brother..forget it. People who get wasted say/do the stupidest things in all different levels. Alcohol has a very damaging effect. So just put that off to one side right now.
He's a 10th grader and you're about to graduate? Well, having sex with him is illegal becuase you're probably 18 and he's..well not. Haha. But anywhos, forget about that. If you really really love him then do it. If you don't have any doubts in your mind whatsoever that is. If you're having the slightest doubt, then just forget the whole idea. But you know that after you guys have sex, it may be a little awkward for a while...
But it's true that doing someone that you don't know for the first time is horrible compared to losing your virginity to someone when you're are not drunk (I hope) and you know the person and you treasure the person dearing. But you need to think about this. You may emotionally be able to handle sex but Jake might not be because right now he's just a horny teenager like every teenager out there. Just talk to him about it for a while. Make sure HE doesn't have any doubts and make sure he's not wanting to have sex just because he's horny but because he truly wants to and loves you. And make sure you're not doing this because he wants you to or you want to just lose your virginity before you go to college. Good luck!!
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