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commitment issues
Hi im a 16 yr old girl.
I think im scared of commitment.
And im loosing my 1 month bf because of it.
He hasnt said its over but I know if I dont do something soon it will be.
If my bf starts getting serious or nice i freak out and run away. I think its because im worried about the sexual part of a relationship and im too scared to get serious because i dont want sex or anything like that.
Any advice on how to stop being so scared???
Or what I could do to make it sork still???
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It's really common to feel how you are. A lot of girls feel like this at the first sight of a potentially serious relationship. But you just have to keep reminding yourself that you have to let yourself take risks in order to learn and grow. I'm not saying you have to have sex, but it's okay to take the risk and try new things in the relationship that you haven't yet.
What you for sure need to do though is communicate with your boyfriend and let him know how you are feeling. That is the best thing for the situation.
Be specific and explain to him that you like him a lot and that your feelings for him are sincere but you just are a little uneasy or uncomfortable when it comes to aspects of the relationship you haven't experienced yet. Chances are, if your boyfriend cares about you and the relationship, he is going to understand completely and work with you through this process.
And also, if it does turn out that you end up ending the relationship--that's okay, just use this as a lesson and a practice for the next way. But don't ever hold back when you know you should. Speak up when you need to. Let him know exactly what you want and don't want. Take things as slowly as you need to.
Also, you may want to talk a lot and really get to know each other a little more so that you can become more comfortable around him. :)
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