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cant stand family
Ok i cant stand my family. they make me want to kill myself. First off. my little brother of 11 years old, is a selfish little brat, who crys and crys about everything. and if he doesnt get his way he flips out. my sister of 15 is always pointing out the bad things about me, she is always yelling at me, and always makeing me feel like crap. My older brother of 17 is always beating on everything and needs to take anger mangament classes. My mom is always telling me, how i should feel about things, and yells at me for things i dont even do. Please tell me, what do i do?
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it sounds like you and your family are under alot of stress. dont let it take you down maybe you should have a one on one talk with your mom. she might be just as upset as you are. your brother is only 11 and thats how little kids are. maybe you can try focusing on the good things no matter how small they are about them. you might want to confront your sister nicely about how what she says make you feel. you could also no matter what start calmly speaking your mind in a calm manner about how this stuff makes you feel. dont say you wannaa kill your self go alittle deeper then that. i hope you seriously dont mean that by the way its not worth it. if your being abused by these people im not saying you are but it happens tell a counselor at school. im not sure how old you are but it doesnt matter you have as much rights as a human as anyone else and you have a voice. dont bottle up emotion instead start calmy telling people how you feel about things. you might even change how they are that way. just speak your mind in a positive way if you cant get through to them then thats their own problem
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I know how you feel. Families can sometimes drive you up the wall. My brother can be a brat, and my other brother beats me and blames me for everything, as well as pointing out the faults that I have. I know it's hard to deal with it. Families are like that. Let me tell you, it's not easy. You know, it may be necessary for your family to get a councilor. Mine had to have one for a little. My biggest advice, though, 'cause I know councilors can't always solve it, is to ask your family to sit down with you, and have everyone talk about it. You need to make sure they understand that this isn't about "Who did what" or anything like that, It's just to help the family.
I really hope you can work this out.
My best wishes,
Kitty
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If you feel bad about all this just try talking to your mom. Maybe even a counsler. Just get away from the house for a little like go over to a friends house or to the movies. Bowling maybe and stuff like that where you can get all that off your mind. Your mom might be yelling at you since she might be stressed since she has 4 kids so it might be best if you let her be but just get away from the house and have a good time!
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i agree with the person under me. pray to god and tell him how you need his help. i promise, if you are christian and believe in him, he will lead you in the right direction. just take a deep calm breath and forget about your family. i know you may think that they are annoying and you can't stand them but if you lost them right now, i guarrentee you would still be in tears. there are times when i want to beat up my family too but thats how families are. no family is perfect and if families were, life would be boring. if you need to let out your feelings i suggest going to a guidance counselor. they will help let all of your feelings out and you won't feel as stressed. but if you feel uncomfortable, i suggest getting a diary and writing down your feelings. if you get it off your chest you will feel a little better.
you need to also get out of the house. hang out with friends, hang out at the mall, see a movie, go iceskating; do something. if you're out of the house away from your family then the pressures off.
i personally can't help you but i can lead you in the right direction. try different things to handle your problem. i don't know what will work for you so try different things.
if it doesn't get better, let me know. write down my username or something so we can talk about it. i really want to help you because i have friends who have the same problem and i want you to be happy.
just remember, do what's in your best interest. talk to your family tell them how you feel and if they don't listen, you're on your own to handle your problems. to be on this site you have to be 13 or older, so you're old enough to handle problems. just do whatever it takes and ill be hoping for the best.
please let me know how it turns out
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merry christmas,
adviice_whore
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My family is kind of like that too. There isn't much you can do about it. Sooner or later things will get better. If your mom tells you to do something just do it and go to your room. And about your brothers and sisters ignore them they know it ticks you off so they make you mad even more. Just hang out with your friends more and spend less time at home. ♥
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