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I need friends
I am very outgoing i love dancing and theatre, partying, laughing, but latley, i lost myself. I mean i dont know...i used to have so many frineds but they are all gone. I am in highschool, a freshman, and a girl. so it is important to make friends now. Everyone says that evryone goes through this. But i dont know one person who has only one friend, and that friend, has other friends but i am not friends with them. I used to be popular, no i feel so invisible. Because of this i only talk sometimes because i feel awkward even around kids i know. I feel like i have to impress them, becasue nothinf else is working. I just want to have frinds. I think part of my problem is that the kids i am somewhat friends with, i feel awkward just leaving them and sitting with ohter kids, but i wnat to have friends. What weirder is i get along with kids from class i met this year, i feel like we could be good friends. But they are not as popular as my other kind of friends so i feel like they will think i nam dorky. Last but not least guys do not look at me and i do not think i will ever have a boyfriend because i am to concerned with what others think of me, so i dont want them to ridicule who i date. I am having so much trouble...I NEED HELP!!!
Sincerly, Depressed
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Well I just want to say that I had the SAME exact freshman year you're having. My friends ganged up on me and left me out in the cold. I had to hang with my guy friends and a lot of my old friends. I also had to try to find new friends. It's the toughest thing ever since I wasn't outgoing at all. In the end it made me WAYY more outgoing but anyways. What I did was I hung out with a lot of people who weren't as popular as I used to be just as you did and worked my way up. As I hung out with different groups my old friends realised I was happy without them and was doing fine. It almost kind of attracted them back! Also, by lowering your standards for friends you can realise what true friends are like and learn a lot of lessons. It's also really good to join new clubs or a new sport because you're kind of forced to meet new people but they can turn out to be great friends. With the guy thing it's really tough. I would have to say that you just need to be more outgoing with them like say hey and make a lot of guy friends. By doing this other guys look at you and think wow she must be a cool girl if all the guys hang out with her. Or wait till you find one you think u might really like and try to get closer to them. As far as the self confidence thing I think you need to really think of yourself better. Think about the things you think make you special and who you are and embrase it. One thing I do when I feel ugly or down about my looks is I try to look my best. I'll spend a night doing my hair and my make up really well and take pictures. Then I'll try to do it again for school so I can feel really confident around campus. Guys LOVE confidence and a girl whose outgoing.
I'm sure everything will fall into place because it did for me I went from popular to nothing to popular again. You just got to put some effort in. I'm sure you'll be fine in no time
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