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anxiety
Well to make a long story as short as possible, I've been under stress lately. My mom doesn't talk to me, my sister moved out a while ago, and she just told me that she and her boyfriend are moving far away soon becasue he's joining the Army.
I love my boyfriend more than anything, we have a great relationship and I know he loves me. But Something has been wrong lately. Whenever I have to leave his house I get really depressed, and all these terrible thoughts come to my head, I can't stop them, like that he doesn't love me anymore, or that he's not attracted to me. I can't stop these thoughts, and I wish they would go away. I know they're ridiculous and I can't take it anymore. It's happened so amny times before, I'll be doing something, and somethign he'll say or so will automatically make me think that he doesn't love me anymore, or that he's annoyed with me. I'm so scraed to disagree with him or raise my voice or tell him not to do something because I'm terrified that he'll get mad, and it kills me to think that I could upset him. (I'm like that around most people, I hate thinking that I could have upset someone because I can't stand the idea that someone could be mad at me.) My boyfriend has this habit of pinching my butt and honking my boobs, and I really wish he wouldn't. I dunno how to tell him to stop though, I'd rather just be around him without all the pervy physical stuff.
I dunno whats wrong with me. Please give me advice, information, reassurance, anything!
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if your having doubts on your relationship you should tell him.I know it must seem hard cause im the same way i hate disipointing anyone but he maybe a little more into it then you.About the touchy touchy stuff tell him to stop that you only want him and nothing sexual and if he's a good guy he should respect that.Say it nicely- you cant be walking on egg shells in your relationship he needs to know that you have feelings to and that he has NO right grabbing your boobs!im sorry but i'd flipp out unless your ganna get more into the holl sex which by how you talk you might've already but if its not ganna happen that night he shouldnt do it.
hope i helped
katie:)
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you say you know your boyfriend loves you. tell him the pervy stuff he does makes you unhappy. but since you love him give him something he can do that you like or wont mind him doing. he is touching you because he likes you. teach him how to do it in a way that pleases you. he cant read your mind, you have to tell him.
your sister is moving and your going to miss her. talk to your mom about it. your mom is going to miss her too so you have that in common.
being confuse with strange thoughts in your head is just a sign of growing up and as you get older that little voice inside will grow up to and start to give you better advise.
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ok,I know you don't like this but you really are in a deep hole. ok,you look at yourself in the mirror and pretend the mirror version is him. tell him what you like and what you don't like him to do. keep practicing and then try it with a picture. out loud. then when you're sure you've got the right words to say to him take a deep breath, cry first if you want to. and then tell him. calmly and slowly. You'll feel much better after that.
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it seems like you feel like your boyfriend is the only person you have to turn to and you are really worried about losing him, therefore paranoid that everything he does means he doesn't like you. if you keep ignoring these thoughts, overtiem you will change and explode with feelings and such, so i REALLY suggest talking to him. tell him exactly how you feel and show him how important he is to you. the only reason he pinches you and stuff is because he thinks your hot and thinks you like it, so just tell him you don't, but make it up to him. be honest, and it'll work out
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