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Iam taking care of a 15 year old girl and she's not mine i just have custody of her she's in ceaderwood becouse she has behavior problems.
Traci is always picking on my son who's autistic and it makes him pitch fits.
Traci never helps with chores and she never listens to me and she also picks on my cousin who comes to stay with me on the weekends and iam tired of having to be her bodyguard all the time.Traci also aggervates everybody and i don't want to have to take her back to live with her mom becouse it's not an appropriate place for a 15 year old girl to grow up in what should i do?
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i fostered a 15 year old with problems too. It is not easy. You have to be consistant and you have to make her realize who is the adult. You have to make Traci realize that if she doesn't listen to you she will no longer stay with you but if you and her can work things out that she is more than welcome.
you can empower her by telling her that it is all up to her choice.
if she is supposed to do a chore and doesnt do it there should be a punishment, she should know in advance what the punishment is and then it is her choice of what she wants to do, the chore or the punishment.
if she is abusing your son, you need to sit her down the minute she comes home and say, this will stop or you will have to leave. she is old enough to make this choice also and if she continues you will have to give her to child services and they will foster her somewhere.
it is a sad thing to have to make a choice between this girl and your son but you need to make traci realize you will make that choice if she forces you to.
the idea is to make it her choice, the fact that your giving her the power to choose to live by your rules or leave will settle this matter.
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well since i'm close to that age i would say to send her somewhere i know that you might not like the idea but it probably is theonly way it will help
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