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breast massage
16/f
OK well whenever I go to a sleepover, my friend and I always give eachother breat massages (she is also a female) under blankets and stuff. We aren't lesbians, we both have had boyfriends and like guys right now. However, this doesn't make me a lesbian right? And also, the same old rubbing of the breat gets boring, how can I make the breat massages better? (without making it too noticable that I am touching her breast?)
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The first thing you must do is learn how to actually spell the word "breast". It has an "s" in it.
Second - no, it doesn't make you a lesbian. Actions are not what determines sexuality; desire is. So if you find yourself sexually aroused by the idea or the act of rubbing your friend's breasts, then there is some part of you that finds lesbian activity to be a turn-on. But you can find some pleasure in touching another girl without having to define yourself as a lesbian.
You seem to be in a certain amount of denial here about something, though. Your message is peppered with things that make me think you're trying to dance around the idea that you really do enjoy doing this. For instance, you say that you both like guys "right now"; which begs the question, do you foresee sometime in the future when you will actually prefer women?
You say that it gets boring after a while. Well, for my own part, when I get bored doing something I generally stop doing it. I can't help but think that there's some reason you keep it up even though it's repetitious.
You want to make the massages better, but without making it too noticeable that you're touching her breasts? Heck, if you can figure out a way of touching someone's breast without her knowing about it, every horny guy in the world will pay you whatever you want for the secret!
But seriously, what do you mean by "better"? It really depends on what you're both getting out of this, which means it's time to admit whether it's sexual or not. If it's not sexual, then I'd say the best thing to do would be to try rubbing her shoulders or other things besides the breasts, because then it's more of an all-over massage which is enjoyable on many levels. However, if it IS about sexuality and you can bring yourself to admit that, then... well, use your imagination. And your lips.
I think you and your friend need to have a little talk about this, and find out what you're both getting out of it and whether it's a good idea to continue. The fact is, even if you aren't a lesbian, there's a chance she is one - and you'll need to deal with that at some point.
Finally, I feel the need to point out that in all honesty I'm not sure I totally believe you. I think there is a possibility that you've written the above question just to see what kind of responses you'll get. However, I'm giving an honest answer anyway, because you may be telling the truth and there may be other girls (or guys) who have similar concerns about their own sexuality.
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hey i do the same with my friend who is a boy.we both give each other penis mages uder the cover.anyway you should play wit the nipples and rub softly.
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Ok, first of all not this does not make you lesbian, unless you want to be lesbo lol.
Second, maybe use two hands? I'm sorry i cant really answer the second part because i've never done it before!
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