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A true friend.... or not?
14/f
I met this girl, lets call her Suzy, last year in school. We became really close friends. Then came summer and we kinda went our separate ways, I traveled, and she traveled. Then we found out we were in the some of the same classes together this year. On the first day of school, everything was fine... we hung out together and had fun. Then.... here comes the problem. Suzy has a best friend and she's known her until about kindergarten. Lets call her Kendra. Well Kendra and Suzy don't have any classes together, and they only see each other before school, sometimes in the hallways, and then after school.
Well my birthday was in October, and usually your friends decorate your locker when it's your birthday. Guess who forgot... SUZY!!! I reminded Suzy everyday that it was my birthday, and then I asked her if she could come to school early and decorate my locker, and she said... "oh no, I cant come to school early. My parents are working really early, so they never can bring me to school early"
I was really sad and upset on that day of my birthday. Then just a couple of days ago was Kendra's birthday. I found out that somebody decorated Kendra's locker and I asked her who she think did it. And of course she said Suzy, and then Suzy came and said it was her.
Oh My Gosh!
soooooo, to make a long question short, do you think my friendship with Suzy has gone down the drain? Do you think I should still be friends with Suzy? Why do you think Suzy has lost interest in me? Should I forget about her, and find another best friend?
THANKS SO MUCH EVERYBODY WHO READ THIS! YOU'RE A TRUE HERO.
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well, i dont think that suzy doesnt care about you or the friendship anymore...because people dont just stop caring becuase they have another friend...a lot of the times summer changes people but i dont think in this case that happened...maybe it is just taking suzy a little while to sort it all out now that everyone is back in school..my advice would be to try talking to her about how you feel..in a calm way, and use the locker as an example..not that you would--but dont throw it back in her face, just try saying that you just wanted her to care or something and make the effort...but in reality it is just a locker and the friendship itself is more important...if you come to find that you both have changed in different ways over the summer, that's ok..its tough to accept that idea.but take it from me, i've had personal expierience when it comes to this sort of situation...that doesnt mean that you and suzy cant ever be as close as you were, or even closer than you were at some point..but if you find that things are working out really between you two right now, i'd suggest trying to make friendships and being open to other people as well..i'm sure you are but i'm just saying..but none of that has happened yet so i'm jumping to conclusions here, just try to talk to her..call her or pull her aside (in person is always better) and just try to tell her how you feel...she should appreciate your effort and recognize what you are saying...i wouldnt IM her with your thoughts though, because often times when it comes to friendship stuff the interent can miscommunicate and you dont want that...just keep your head up and be honest with her and you will figure out what you need to do...i'm always here if you need to talk <33
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