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boyfriend going to strip club
im 16/f. my boyfriend is 18/f. they are taking his best friend out to the strip club for his 18th birthday. should i or should i not care? because i don't know how i feel about it right now.
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you should care because he is seing another naked women dance..juss because he doesnt know her doesnt mean he should be looking at her. Would he like it if you went out and saw naked men dance? i don't think he would, which means you can feel the same way
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okay, well from experience, if i were you i wouldn't care too much that he's going to a strip club. well, as long as he's not cheating then you shouldnt care i mean at strip clubs you cant touch the girls or anyhting so its really nothing to worry about. And if its for your boyfriends friend you really shouldnt worry about it. i hope i helped.
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Greetings.
I honestly dont think you have to worry.
I think it might be a bit of a misconception that because someone enjoys a night being entertained by a stripper that they are likely to cheat on you or whatnot.
I have found that strip bars offer a distance that relationship dont allow.
Basically it's a way to relax for some people; you go to the strip club, you, the stripper and everyone KNOW why you're there, it's to watch attractive women dance, it gives a clarity, which is good; it also means you can indulge in a fantasy that you might not be able to with your partner (normally because you respect them too much to ask them to wear a pvc uniform and dance for you and appear to "degrade" yourself. I personally dont see stripping as degrading, but most people have it reinforced by the media or religion, that it is "wrong").
I personally think letting your significant other go and indulge in this spectacle is better, as they can go drool over another person and not feel guilty about it.
Be safe in the knowledge that they are choosing to come home to you after all, which must mean they feel strongly about you.
Anyone can be a sex object to them, but you are the one that they see in a more meaningful light.
And I keep saying it again and again, talk to your partners, a good communication avoids these bad feelings and complications, it brings you closer together.
Hope I've been of some help!
-Shelagh
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If you trust him enough then it should not be a problem bc hes taking his friend out, its not for his sole pleasure only. Guys will be guys and for some reason they just love strippers..it doesnt necessarily mean hes going there bc he feels like you have nothng to offer. If you know you have a great guy and you trust him with everything, dont worry. If you have some doubts about him then maybe you should bring it up to him.
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it all depends is he the playa type?
do u trust him? has he cheated before?
i dont think you have much to worry bout
just try to talk to him calmly about how u feel
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