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No fear.
15/f. I have a major confidence problem and I'm SICK of it. Believe me, I wouldn't be asking this question if this wasn't getting in the way of things in my life. I feel like I need to be more brave; I'm getting nervous about sooo many things and I worry about EVERYTHING. I also have alot of fears, like I'm afraid of needles, public speaking, the dark, etc. I'm always so self-concious and feel like everyone is looking at me, when, in reality, they probably aren't staring at me half as much as I think they are... I mean I have all of these dreams to have a good job and do something to help people, like maybe a teacher or physcologist, but how can I something like that when I can barely present a project in class without getting extremely nervous?I have no reason to be so self-conscious and I wish I could just take life how it is without worrying so much. I wish I could just stop putting myself down and doubting myself and just feel like I can do anything, because I know if I think positive, good things will probably happen more often. So, does anyone have any tips on being braver and more self-confident? Any websites on how to teach myself to be braver? Lol. Thanks <3
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A book by Paul McKenna is helpful "optimal confidence" that guy is proper good, you get a free cd with the book too.
Im soon gonna go and see a therapist about the same problems, it really helps to talk to someone about it. Write back =)
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I have the same problem too. I`d really talk to a phyc about that. Getting counciling to find out if it's social anxeity or just a faze you're going though.
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I was like this at one time in my life and it seems as if pets, not people helped me the most. I had different types of pets that I was responsible for, but the one that made the biggest difference was my horse. Of course it's not possible for everyone to have a horse or a pet of some sort. But that was my saving grace and it helped in everything else I did. My suggestion is to find just one thing that you like to do, such as a hobby or a sport and practice until you are the best you can be. This will lift your self esteem in other areas of life as well. Many many people are afraid of public speaking, so in reality most members of the audience can relate and would not think badly of you if you made a mistake. Practice giving a speech by yourself in front of a mirror, or use a video camera. Do it over and over again until you are comfortable with your performance. If you make a mistake or fumble over your words don't be too concerned, just move on..and keep going.
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You have reveal the cause of your lack of confidence and your fears.This is a faster way to get rid of them.This is a slower but more rewarding way.You have to slowly confront your fears.Make the room dimmer and dimmer with lampshades.Then maybe you can turn of the light completely.About needles...You can just hold it at first.Tell yourself how much you love needles.About public speaking.Try looking for sites on neuro linguistic technique.Remember people usually laugh because something is unexpected.You can control whether people laugh at you or with you.You just laugh when they laugh.According to a newspaper some animals used to get together and make laughing noises for no reason.Search for "ego booster" in google.They send you emails that help to boost your ego and stuff.
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The book 'unstoppable confidence' is quite a help.
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^Here is a short booklet that is easy to do and I found is very helpful. Be sure to read carefully and apply everything or it will be of no help.
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