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my grandparents' gift to me
my mom basically told all of my grandparents to only put money into my savings account for christmas. she did this last year, too. and, like last year, she did not even run this by me at ALL. she just told them what to get me, and casually brought it up today.
that makes me very mad. she said she didnt have to ask me about it because "she's the parent". well shes forgetting that "i'm the kid", and that i'm only a kid for so long. i'm in high school. i'm not even a senior yet, and we are not poor in any way. it furiates me that my mom AND grandparents would work out what to get me without even asking what i want. i dont care if its worth it in the future. i want it to be worth something when i get it.
what do i do? i dont want to get only savings money from my grandparents.
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When someone gives you a gift you rarely get to decide what it is. The person giving the gift gets to put all the limitations on it. Be as angry with your mother as you want, but in the end if the gift your grandparents choose to give you is money for your savings that is their choice and the only decent thing you can say to them is 'thank you'.
If you want to convince your grandparents to give you an actual gift now, try to think of something that is productive to ask for. Don't ask for designer jeans; ask for a camera if you are into photography or something like that. Something that will support your development as a young adult and encourage you in your passions or goals.
Especially seeing as you are not 'poor', your grandparents want to give you something valuable and useful, not just junk you'll outgrow or get tired of in a few months. So think about a gift to ask for that will appeal to their goal and intentions. Then you will probably be able to politely encourage them to give you a gift.
Frankly though, if all you are going to ask for it DVDs or CDs, clothes or video games, then just let the money go into savings and write your grandparents a nice thank you note for it. Take it from a starving student: It’s better off in there.
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Greedy, greedy, greedy.
Hah, I'm only joking - all kids your and my age are greedy.
I mean, I went to a birthday party last night and my friend received ten dollars from almost every guest. It was insane.
Basically your mom is going to do whatever she wants.
Have you thought of calling your grandparents and mentioning it to them?
Have you really talked to your mom about this, other than getting pissed off?
And think about it - it's just a few Christmases. You have plenty ahead of you - and someday you'll get all that money.
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