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Hurtful Comments
Okay, so I have a good amount of friends. They're pretty awesome friends but to a point. I'm from South Korea and I've been living in the US for almost 6 years now and I'm the usual Asian person that studies her ass off with strict parents. The thing is that some people from my lunch table say hurtful remarks like "Are you teaching her Chinese" or some say some Japanese words or someone says "Go back to North Korea to your dicatator" or "Chinese girl" I know that they're saying thi sjokingly and many might not get why it's hurtful but the thing is that South Korea, China, and Japan are different countries with different cultures and own identity and when they decide to ignore the fact (that I've told them about a million times that I'm Korean) and decide to clump my nationality with another one just is so rude to me and that's considered like the same things as people calling African Americans Niggros [sp?] and Calling everyone from South American Mexicans or something like that. My other friend was like "Oh my god, when you didn't come out of class I was like 'The immagration people took her away!'" and someone else was like "I know what I'll get you for your birthday..a Green card!!!" and another friend of mine yanked my sleeve down and was like "Oh wow, you're not cutting under that Asian strict pressure" or something like that and he went on nonstop. And I get really amd at them but I let it go because I don't want to start any fights or drama or anything and I've told them that they're being really mean and rude and I've threatened them saying that I won't talk to them anymore and such but they seem to ignore that and make racist remarks against me right in front of me. I know that they're just joking and I shouldn't take it seriously but I can't help it. They are going on and on and on and it hurts. So how do I tell them that they're really hurting me and that I am serious when I say enough is enough without it being all dramatic and stuff.
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ok tell them: "guys stop i no your joking but just stop its getting old and annoying" or spmthing like that. or i shuldnt really giv this to u as advice but you culd give them a taste of their own medicine. say stuff like "at least in korea we dont...." (sry i dont no wat they do in korea but you fill in the blank!)
hope i helped :)
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you sound like such a real down to earth person, your friends do sound a little, im not sure of the word im looking for, unsenctive maby. But
tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.
If you sit them down and talk it out with them maby they might start to understand, put them in your shoes ie : how would they feel if they were in your country and people made racist comments towards them. If they dont understand you, or how your feeling, maby they arnt the right kind of firneds for you, im not trying to tell you to find new friends, but maby their just not the kind of people who suit your amasing persoinaitly
hope i could have helped a little
mwa x0
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