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There are three of us. We're 15/f. I guess im really the third because my two other friends[there my closest ones]are bestfriends. One of them used to be my bestfriend, and we'd kind of exclude the other one out, now its backfiring on me. It's hard to deal with because they make me feel so left out. Before when we made my other friend feel left out, my bestfriend would atleast talk to her. Both of them always ask me to go to their house, while the other one is there, but then it just turns out awkward because both of them ignore me and do their own little thing. It's not fun.
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Aw, that happens to the best of us sometimes. You just need to tell them how you are feeling. If one of them says how you used to leave her out, apologize (and be sincere) and say you want to change things and be a better person (if you do). Just talk to them and hopefully things work out.
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There's a simple solution: communication. It would be to your benefit to tell them you feel left out. Here's why: A.) they may not be aware of it, and, B.) they are aware, but they don't think you mind. There is a possibility that it could be another reason, but that's most common.
If you explain that you don't enjoy hanging out with them anymore because when they invite you places, they exclude you out of conversations. Tell them how awkward you feel and how things aren't the same. Find out if there is a reason behind it. If you feel that you need to mention how you excluded the other friend out, you realize now how it's important that everyone be included because that's just not right.
By doing this, they may accept that leaving you out wasn't right and prevent it from happening again. But if they were aware of it and make it seem like it's no big deal, you may want to find different friends. Because people who leave you out really aren't worth your time. And the more it happens, the worse you'll feel. Especially if they ignore you and your feelings, that shows total disrespect right there.
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Being in a circle of friends where there is an odd number is always hard. Make sure that you listen in on the conversation going on and participate in it or if you don't get what they're saying or are bored with it, change the subject to something that at least one of them will be interested in or just tell them that you're feeling left out. Either that or you can try to find something that all three of you guys can do or make new friends and drag at least one of the new friends along with you if you know that you're going to feel left out
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