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girlfriend troubles
okay ive been dating this girl for about 6 months. her name is jessica. she's really cool and i love her alot but for the past 2 weeks shes been acting really weird latley. she seems to get really jelous of other girls. like i'll be talking to my friend lily and she'll pull me keep me away from her and if i try to go she pulls me and stright up tells me not to talk to her. but then i talked to her and she said she was sorry but yesterday she strangled lily and almost threw her down the stairs. i dont know what to do. i love jessica with all my heart but her jelousy is giving me other thoughts. i love her so much but maybe it's not worth it. is this normal is relationships? how can i convice her not to be so jelous? should i just dump her? what should i do???
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calm down there with the dumping thing.
she just really really REALLY likes you now and is scared of losing you. maybe lily likes you and your girlfriend found out and now she thinks you might ditch her for lily.
just tell her that you don't like lily.
seems to me like lily needs to back off. but i don't know if it's lily or your girlfriend, because i'm not the one there when this stuff happens.
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okey it's normal to be KINDA jealous. but kedd, in this case, she's like.. dangerously jealous. That is what you call controlling. She tells you who you can talk to and who you can't. And of course that's never healthy in a relationship. I always get jealous when my boyfriend is hangin with other girls instead of me but dude, i don't try to push them or throw them down the stairs! The right thing to do in a situation is straight up tell her "I love you with my whole heart but your getting really controlling. If you don't stop we have to break up." And if she doesn't get why she's being controlling, say the same exact thing you say here because that makes sense to me.
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It is normal to be a little jealous, but not normal to strangle someone or show violent behavior of any kind. Do not let this girl control you or your life. If she wants to be with you and you with her...which you should think about, then start setting limits and boundaries. Tell her she does not get to dictate how you live and who you talk to. She gets to be your girl if she accepts and trusts you and your choices. If she is too insecure and psycho to handle it, then dump her and be glad to be rid of her.
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maybe you should just find some time to talk to her and tell her about whats up. If she dosn't agree with anything she might not be worth it. And maybe she's just the jealous type that if she see's you with another girl she gets jealous because she dosn't want to lose you.
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