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what is wrong with me?!
I don't have a best friend-I have many acqaintances and some what friends that I can BARELY count on. No one ever invites me anywhere--and if I do invite people anywhere, it doesn't work out for them. OR I often invite people and I never EVER get an invite back. Why haven't I had a boyfriend yet? 16 and single--never been kissed. LIFE SUCKS. I guess I'm tragically ugly or something and how come I'm so uncomfortable around guys? I can never find myself to be calm and untensed around them. I feel like everyone uses me and I give my all to be happy--but in the end, I get nothing. I know I don't have a specific question--but can someone give me somewhat of a resolution to my devastating life?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
So, I'll tackle this point by point...
No best friend? No problem! Start putting yourself out there more. Try talking to people you normally wouldn't talk to. See someone sitting alone at lunch? Try eating with them. It's easy to make friends if you try to be outgoing. Best friends don't happen instantly, it takes time and work.
16 and single? Also not a problem. I was 18 when I got my first boyfriend. You don't need men to be happy, not at this stage in your life especially. Dating is a serious hassle, and it takes up waayyy too much time. Also, the desperate "I NEED A BOYFRIEND NOW" vibe shows. So stop stressing over it, swear off of trying, and guys will start to be more interested.
Tragically ugly? Probably not. I thought I was ugly because boys didn't want to date me in high school... turns out I'm just an intimidating person to boys. Real men can handle me though :P You're probably just too smart or opinionated for high school boys... your time will come, though. Don't worry!
Uncomfortable around guys? Just remember that they're people too. Stop thinking of them as being dating prospects, and start thinking of them as friends. Then, once you've gotten to know them better, you can start thinking about dating them.
Remember, however terrible your life may seem, someone else has it worse than you.
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Sugar, children in Africa have devastating lives, yours is far from it.
You're not tragically ugly unless that's what you tell yourself and that may be what is the cause of all your problems.
What you need is a little confidence. People will not feel excited about hanging out with someone who is miserable or overeager to be their friends.
You need to start telling yourself that you are an awesome, amazing person and that everyone should want to date you or be your friend.
If you start walking around like that instead of moping with your head down all the time, you'll be attracting people like honey and bees.
Now stop with the pity party and start strutting your stuff.
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