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ive turned into the type of person i hate
A big HUGE thing I hate like crazy is when people go digging for compliments. I find it kind of pathetic, but in my home I am constantly torn apart and picked at for every little thing. Always told I'm not pretty or not smart and that I'm a terrible person and noones ever going to want to marry me. (Theres alot more I just dont wanna say it all.) Well because of this I have been losing more and more confidence and I've been tending to go digging for compliments. I mean I always get compliments from everyone, about how I look and how I dress, but at times when I'm not I get insicure. I know that might sound pathetic but i start feeling really bad and down about everything about me and feel the need to have other say good things about me. Is there anything I can do to lift my confidence and stop me from being the type of person I hate? or is it just a self problem that i have to overcome?
Thanks to taking the time to read this,
sorry im being so immature and stupidd.
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Oh no babe, don't worry.
It's funny how contradictory we can all be...
I mean I love the spotlight...but I'm not self-centered.
You look for compliments not because you don't like yourself but because you want to be sure that other people do too. A lot of people are like that.
The family thing is pretty harsh...I'm sure that you are beautiful and a great person. And when you marry Mr. Right they will be crying.
Talk to a counselor too.
It makes all the difference.
XOXO
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You aren't immature or stupid at all. Deep down, you know that those things your family says to you aren't true. Furthermore, your family probably knows they aren't true, too. Whoever is saying those horrible things to you is probably either jealous of you or feeling very insecure about themselves. I know that there's not much you can do in your situation, because I'm in your situation. My mom rarely says anything positive about me on her own will; mostly everything she says is prying, criticism, or mean comments. Try to ignore it that best you can. If if gets really bad, talk to someone kind in your home, or another relative. You ARE pretty, you ARE smart, you're a great person, and I'm sure tons of guys are in love with you, and you don't need anyone to reinforce or contradict that.
Best wishes, God bless.
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First, you have to figure out what is really the truth. After you do that, stick with it. Don't listen to people who tell you you are better or worse that how you really are. But dont't make a scene of it, just ignore those comments that aren't true, or say "no" in such cases. It's important to also ignore someone that says you're better than you are.
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