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I'm really scared!!
I'm really scared for my friend, she's going out with a guy who is like WAY older than her! SERIOUSLY OLDER by like, EIGHT or NINE years! well at least that's what she told me she might not REALLY be going out with him, she does lie a lot to get attention, but please i need advice to give 2 her
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Ok now...8 or 9 years? Sounds like it's a lie! But...I know what your going through...trust me at that. A girl at my school does the same things as your friend. Tell your friend that she shouldn't be going out with an 8 or 9 year old guy! Cause she doesn't know what will happen! If she keeps saying she is seeing him, tell your mom. No...tell your mom now and then tell her. I wish you the best of luck!
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If she's happy then leave her alone.
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It really depends how old she is and how much experience she has. Dating older guys has it's pro and cons. On the upside, he has a care ( woot woot !) and older guys are overall more mature. On the downside however, they expect more, sexually i mean. However that doesnt mean that all guys are like that. Just have your friend talk to him about that, if shes ready thats great. But if hes pressuring her and shes not ready, she shouldn't deal with it. Remember age is only and number, it really depends on each persons " maturity level"
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Have you told her how concerned you are about this? If not, you really do need to talk to her about it. If she is not just doing it for attention and she is younger than 16 or 17, this is a cause for concern and you need to talk to her about it. However, that being said, you shouldn't expect that it will necessarily make any difference. If she likes him, she won't take your concerns on board until something happens.
If she is sleeping with this man and she is a minor, stress to her the position she is putting herself in. Unfortunately, other than this, there is precious little you can do. You may feel this age gap is a problem and you may be concerned about what is happening but if she really likes him, nothing you can say will make her stop seeing him. If this is the case, the only thing you can do is tell her you don't feel it is a healthy relationship with such an age gap, so that she knows how you feel and then you will have to be there to help her pick up the pieces when things go wrong. It's a horrible situation to be in but if she is like most people in her position, the more you try to convince her he is unsuitable, the harder she will dig her heels in.
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