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my friends' pregnancies
For some reason I get SO MAD when a friend of mine gets pregnant. Like I had so many friends who ended up getting pregnant, but before that they always talked about being abstinent, and not anything like that and before I know it they're having babies.. I can't stand it at all. I do not know why it bothers me so much. I support them and help them out, but there's just something that angers me about them getting pregnant. Can someone please explain to me why or how I feel this way, and how I can get over this emotion?
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You know that your friends are making bad decisions and you're sad, angry, and disappointed at and for them. Just by not using a condom on one night they basically put all of their aspirations and goals off by 10 years. This is a normal reaction you are having, and a good one, at that. It shows that you have morals and values and will most likely never make the same bad choices your friends did. Although you are angry that your friends are pregnant, you should let them know that you are always there for them, no matter what, because that's what they need right now. Best wishes.
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You may have stronger morals and beliefs about sex and pregnancies then they do; this might anger you that they do not act the way you believe people should act. I know I've felt this way before on many various topics.
Its okay to be angry. To you its probably very disturbing that they're disrupting their lives with this mistake and that they did not care enough about themselves and take time to think about the possible outcomes. You just have to take time to realize that not everyone thinks in the same way as you do. This may be hard.
Try expressing your anger about this topic in some other form, writing perhaps.
It'll just take time to get over your anger.
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It may be that you feel like they don't care about their own health and that they are betraying something that should mean so much to them, their youth. Sometime being irresponsible bothers people. It all depends on where these feelings come from.
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