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too much innocence
i am 16 and i have never got close to a guy i have never had sex and i havnt even had my proper first kiss. I dont know why but everytime i got to know a guy he asks me out n then i panic so bad that i cant breathe. i really need advise i dont want to feel like the most innocent person ever. most of my friends have had sex n i feel left behind.
plz help
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don't have sex if you feel you aren't ready.
you aren't left behind because people are doing stuff that you don't feel comfortable doing.
its all right to be the only person like this, i promise. & its a good thing
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You're actually way ahead of them. Having a lot of sex at a young age is very immature. Their "relationships" don't mean very much and they are taking huge risks with their bodies. Being innocent is okay. I didn't have my first kiss or my first boyfriend until I was eighteen and a half and I turned out okay. Much better than the people I remember being a little jealous of earlier in my life.
Being afraid of relationships isn't good though. It's okay to be nervous, but there's no reason to panic. I think that maybe it would be best for you if you took the first step into your own hands. If there's a guy you like ask him out yourself. If you can't do that, remember some of the guys that have asked you out before. If you are interested in any of them, write a letter. That way you don't have to deal with them face to face and you can say exactly what you want to say in the letter. Tell him that you are interested in him, but that when he asked you out you got so nervous you didn't know what to do. Ask for another chance and see what happens. Warn him about your nerves and tell him what you will probably do if he approaches you. Say that if he is willing to work with you on that, you would really like it if he was your boyfriend. This should at least get you started.
Remember, if there aren't any guys that you are interested in, don't force yourself into a relationship to catch up with your friends. You'll get there soon enough and if you wait for it to be right, it will be really special when you do. Good luck. :)
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Um...there can never be such a thing as too much innocence. The longer you wait the more special you'll feel. I used to feel like you do too. Trust me, when I finally started having sex and really dating, I was way more mature and self confident, because I spent so much time with myself when I was younger.
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The reason why you panic so much is cos you think too much bout it. You've stressed yourself so much that you breakdown when the time comes.
Why not you lay your mind off that matter? I seriously think you'd be able to handle the guys-asking-you-out issue much better if your mind wasnt so preoccupied.
Just take things one at a time and don't think bout how you're gonna deal with such a situation. You're worrying unduly.
I take it that you're worried bout how you should react when a guy asks you out. Why are you worrying bout it when it hasnt happen yet?
You'd know how to handle it when the time comes. It's just like a girl will naturally know how to flirt when they're around guys.
Just smile and nod your head if you're so afraid you'd stumble on your words.
When guys ask you out, you should be happy bout it and not stressed bout it.
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