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friends and guys
Okay, I'm 16/F.
The guy I like goes to another high school in the area. Just to make this easier, we'll call him "Jack". In order to better explain this story, I'm going to have to add two more people, girls, who we'll call "Jess" and "Sue".
So, I met Jack at the end of 10th grade through friends, and I thought he was annoying and obnoxious, although I was attracted to him physically, and pretty much ignored him. What conversation we did have was short, since he was ignoring me, too. That night he also met Sue, and I could tell he was really into her, another reason that made me annoyed with him, since...well, I grew up with Sue, but she's much shorter than Jack, and she always gets the guy, and it bothered me that even though Jack annoyed me, and even though she's short, she managed to snag him as well.
Months went by and Jack and Sue did end up dating. Jack claimed to be in love with her, but they only went on a few dates before Sue became fed up with him. She gets bored easily, another reason why it angers me when the guys fall all over her, that and the fact that she's so snobby and high maintenance.
Anyway, Jess is another girl I grew up with, and she goes to school with Jack. One day this summer, she gave me Jack's IM out of the blue, and we started talking. I felt like we were really hitting it off. Jess had a party in August, and she didn't invite Jack at first. We were talking on IM the one day and I said I was going to Jess's party, and he immidiately IMed her and next thing I knew, he was invited. The night of the party, he only went because I did, or at least he spent a really long time waiting for me online to tell him I was going.
Jack and I continued to hit it off, and a few weeks later exchanged phone numbers. We tried to go out with friends a few times, but it didn't happen. By the time school started, I still liked Jack, but I wasn't thinking about him too much, until he called me at the end of September and we went out with friends.
Anyway, obviously it's been a few months since then. We started talking less and less after that night, although he seemed to like me and was flirting with me, and all sorts of things. I sat in the front seat of his car with him, he offered me his sweatshirt, and all sorts of things, but we just stopped talking often.
Jess doesn't like Jack, by the way. Or at least, she didn't. She really disliked him...almost hated him, even. I found that odd since he sits with him at lunch, apparantly, and ended up letting him come to her party. In October, Jess started to bring Jack up more and more around me. I was thinking maybe she liked him or knew I liked him. Finally she admitted that she liked him in 9th grade (we're in 11th now).
Jack and I have started talking again since I called him the other night, but I'm still trying to find out what to do. His winter dance is coming up and I really want to go, and Jess says she'll hook me up with someone if she can. She also keeps bringing up Jack wherever we go. I suppose I do as well, but when she does, she seems so...inquisitive, yet happy. I'm trying to figure out if she likes him again or if she just wants to know how I feel or what. Lately they've been getting along better, too.
I also want to know...what should I do about Jack? Should I tell him I like him, despite the fact that I have no clue how he feels, since we just started talking again? Should I tell one of our friends I like him, or even Jess?
Please let me know what you think!
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My response depends on how good of friends you are with Jess. If you're best friends, you should ask her whether or not she likes him before proceeding any further.
I had a thing for a guy for about 4 years and I pretended I had given up on him after a month and I would have been heartbroken if one of my friends started dating him.
If she says she still likes him, then it's your decision on whether you want to honour her or take up Jack. If she's totally cool with it, well thank god.
Then you need to figure out if Jack is single or not. Is he going with someone already? You need to jump on this guy ASAP (and no, not literally) before someone else snags him so arrange a date. And instead of beating around the bush, this time, be a little up front to try to figure out if he's interested or not. Girls are really surprised at what good reactions they get when they decide to just go for it.
Even if he doesn't feel the same way immediatley, you'll have planted the seed in his head so don't be surprised if he calls you a few days later and ask you to the dance.
Good luck <3
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Jess seems inquisitive yet happy. Call it a long shot, but maybe she is both into him herself AND trying to figure out how you feel about him?
My advice is pretty short, don't let Jess hook you up but get hooked up yourself. Drop some hints to Jack, or just ask him to be your date. If you want something done you best do it yourself and not let friends do it for you.
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This seems like a complex situation . For a minute I thought I was on the young and the restless.Intrigued but also confused! I think that you are an extremely analytical person.You notice every detail but, you don't accept them all. As far as the situation with Jack I would say to go for it.Tell him how you feel . It has been long enough and, you seem like it would make you feel alot better to have this off your chest.As for this friend Jess........ don't assume automatically that she likes him but, don't rule it out . It seems like sometimes friends don't have interests in certain people until they find you have a interest.I don't know why this is . It doesn't even matter if it is your best friend you still have to watch out because, sometimes they just end up wanting the same guy you do for no reason other then human nature to overcome the other.Still you will never know what will happen with Jack until he is aware of the circumstances . You never know he could be feeling the very same way.If not at least you tried and you could finally move on from all of the wonder . Believe me if he doesn't ,there are plenty of other fish in the sea and a person as sincere as you will have no problem finding and catching them.
Good Luck
Unity
P.S Isn't so funny that every girl has a friend like Sue?
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