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I really like this guy at my school, and I think he likes me too. I think we both know that we like each other too, but that we just both haven't had the courage to ask the other person out. I've never asked a guy out before, so I'm kind of nervous, partly about how to ask without sounding stupid, I guess. But mostly my nerves are based on paranoia that I know probably isn't logical, but still scares me anyway.
I've only been in one relationship before. It ended very badly due to both stupid decisions and lack of knoweledge on my part, and in retrospect, probably never should have happened in the 1st place, for the same reasons. I don't want to go into the details because it's a very long story, but basically I learned the hard way that you shouldn't have a relationship when a) there is a big age difference, at least not in highschool, b)you're not good friends and c)you havn't known him very long.
I know that this experience shouldn't affect a crush on a guy my age who i've been friends with for over a year, but I'm still scared anyway. I'm afraid of doing anything about it at all, i guess, because everything I did before only made everything worse, and I don't want to do something stupid again and cause yet another disaster.
My best friend knows about my experience and understands why I'm scared. A few of my other friends, though, know I like this guy, but don't know about what happened to me before. They can't see why I haven't asked this guy out yet. One friend in particular. She keeps bugging me and bugging me and wont stop. Every time I see her: "Did you ask him yet?", "When are you going to ask him?", "If you don't soon I'm going to ask him for you."
How do I explain to her why I'm afraid with out explaining the whole situation? (which no one but my best friend knows about, it happened at summer camp). Or should I just overcome my irrational fears and ask him and hope for the best?
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and sorry it's so long!
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The best way to overcome your fears is to do that which you are afraid of. And since you two like each other and know eachother, it's a pretty safe shot. I'd say go for it. And ask your friend who's bugging you to stop and tell her that it's getting kind of irritating. I hope that helps, because friends (females in particular) can be very annoying.
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