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Jealousy...a girls worst enemy.
Sooo...ive been dating my boyfriend for 11 months. (I'm a 15 year old girl). Its been the best 11 months of my life...but its VERY stressful....my bf is a very very jealous boy. We have every class together in school (10th grade). Pre-boyfriend i had a billion guy friends...and now i have like 2. Whenever i go up and talk to ANY guy..even the dorkiest guy in the class...he completely flips out on me. I'm afraid that hes a huge control freak. Almost every day he gets mad at me for it..and i end up in tears at nighttime because he drills it into me til i feel guilty for just TALKING to a guy. I tell him time and time again that im just talking..but he insists that i dont know when i flirt and that i "giggle and bat my eyes". I know that isnt true...and i try sticking up for myself.It usually ends up in a HUGE fight where he and i threaten that were gonna go hurt ourselves and sometimes he does...which makes me feel even more guilty. Hes the perfect example of the jock who starts varsity basketball and is really good looking...and i hate to make him hurt himself and ruin his rep. I cannot imagine leaving him..but i really really need some advice on what to do. Sorry this was so long..but please help me..
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you need to leave him and you both need your heads on a little straighter. The fact that you threaten each other that youre going to hurt yourselves is incredibly messed up on a number of different levels. You both need to get away from each other, neither of you is mature enough to handle this relationship.
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First you need to admit that these haven't been the best 11 months of your life. They can't be if you feel guilty and cry at night. You can't put up with him controlling you like that. It goes beyond him just having a jealousy problem. If he is hurting himself over it he is not stable or mature enough for a relationship right now. Even if you can make him stop being jealous (which you can't because he has to learn on his own) something else will come up and you'll have to be worried about him hurting himself over that. This is not healthy for either of you no matter how much you care about each other. Maybe you two will end up together in the future, but it would be best for both of you at this point to split up. Your happiness should be your number 1 priority. You're not happy right now. You can't be if you are asking for help. It's going to be hard for you to do it but I know that you have the strength to. I wish you lots of luck.
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