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is it possible to love two people
For the past 2 years my heart has literally been back and forth between two people. I love them both for different reasons. But I'm getting older now (24 yrs) and realize its unfair of me to keep going back and forth. Recently my relationship with one fell apart and I have been talking again with the other one and things are cool... and I do love her but secretly i miss the other. My question is: how do I eliminate my feelings for one so that I can be focused on loving and treating who i am with the way she should be treated? I don't want to keep going back and forth when ever my ex decides she wants to be with me again. I know the person I am with now is the better person for me but I can't shake the feelings for my ex... help.
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well its impossible to just stop having feelings for her.. its never going to go away right when you want it to. i have been in the same situation with two guys. i couldn't get over my ex for awhile and then i realized that i did have feelings for him but he wassn't right for me and wasn't good for me either... and i knew i belonged with someone else. maybe you need sometime to think, take a break and relax your at an age where you have to freedom to be settling down or be single.
i think you may also need to sit down and talk to your ex tell her how you feel.. tell her that you only see her as a friend now and that you don't want to keep hooking up and then breaking up.. i told this to my ex and well he just doesn't seem to understand... then the next step is to tell your ex that you will be there for her as a friend and nothing more..
...but in the end its a decision you have to make.. but do what is going to make you happier and feel better. good luck and i hope everything works out!
-Bess
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