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ive done so much whats next
i feel like i do so much for my boyfriend. he gets so stressed out because he works 40 hours a week and goes to school so i barely get any of his time. but when i am with him i try and do so much so he feels appreciated for what he does. but lets just face it guys arent like girls. you cant just pick up flowers and everything be okay. what do you do for a guy? i mean i give him full body massages all the time. i try and do anything i can. but what can you really do? weve been together for 9months and i love all of it. it does get hard. for the both of us. i kinda feel like im not respected either for the hard work i put into the relationship and i never feel like im worth any of it to him. so like next thursday is our 9months or whatever and i told him he has to show someway that he cares about anything i do or its done. because i cant stay in this without respect but just is that right? i just want to feel cared about. and also what can i do for him that basically says. I Love you so much and i appreciate everything you do. besides getting naked and saying put it in me.
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I think you are very right in expecting him to do something for you every once in awhile. Yeah, he's busy and he works really hard so you can't expect it all the time, but if he never gives you anything, that's no good. I'm sure he cares about you, but he doesn't seem to have his priorities very straight. He's using work and school as an excuse to not have to show appreciation for you and that's selfish. You can't be selfish in a relationship. It's not hard to stop into a store really quick and pick up something nice or take you out to a nice dinner on a weekend. A lot of the time, sometimes even kind words can be enough. What you are feeling right now is a terrible feeling. To not be appreciated has got to be one of the worst feelings ever. Plus, it makes you work even harder to get that appreciation and continue to be more and more disappointed when it doesn't come. What you did was right. Give him a chance. Maybe he didn't realize how much he was hurting you and will put more of an effort in from now on. If not though, give him the boot. He doesn't deserve you. I hope that it doesn't come to that. Good luck.
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