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stupid parents, sorry so long.
Alright, for the last, maybe three months, my mother has been really mean to me. Its like every little thing i do, she yells at me for. Lets say if i don't empty the dishwasher, i'll get yelled at, and then my other sister is just sitting on her a$$ doing nothing all day, with the trash cans completly full. Unlike my sister, when my mom yells at me, i stand up for myself. I won't take all the $#it she throws at me. In addition, my father has been really b!tc#y too. I'll do a little thing, and he'll flip out at me. They keep on telling me that i have to stop being in a bad mood all the time, and how i need to go out and do things. I do sports all the time, and just recently i have had a long break, one that i have never had before. as sports season's are rolling in right now, i'm going to be busy a whole bunch. The problem is, no matter how nice i try to be, my parents are always mean to me. I can't do anything w/o them yelling at me. What also really bugs me is that my sister might say something mean to my mom, and she won't get in trouble, and they could be fighitng for a while, and i don't do anything, but finally i say one teensy small thing, and i get in major trouble. gahh. sorry this was long.. but what can i do???
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Ha! Been there, done that! My advice is to stay out of the way and say nothing. Give them absolutely nothing to have on you. You have already been branded the bad one and they are probably threatened and annoyed that you are on to them. Just because you are family, does not mean you are alike. In the meantime, you are living under their house, their rules etc...so at least respect that and keep your mouth shut. No, they will not change and allow you to express yourself. They are to small-minded and selfish. Keep yourself busy doing positive things for yourself and express yourself and your frustrations in ways that are safe and healing for you. This sucks, but I promise it is temporary, and you will eventually have your own life. Nothing in life is fair, and parents are just two people who happened to give you DNA. Try to keep peaceful for your own sake and make the most of what you do have. There are many situations that are way worse, so take heart and get through it! You will survive, I did!!!
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People tend to act towards others how those others treat them. I'm not saying that you are the cause of your parents yelling at you, but that you are in a viscious cycle. They yell at you, you yell back, they yell back, etc. Keep in mind that it's impossible to remain blameless. As hard as you try, you're going to do something wrong and they're going to not like it. The same the other way. That's life. The thing is, you can change how they react. Act towards them how you want them to act towards you. If you hold in your pride and act a bit fake, it will work to your advantage. "Be good to your enemies" applies here. If they start yelling, it will kill them if you just say "Sorry, I'll get right on that" and go do whatever they're yelling about. You don't have to put a fake smile on, just appear like you don't care at all. They will be shocked and won't be able to come up with anything to say back to you. They will probably start treating you well in return. If not you'll at least know that they really hate you for responding with such a positive attitude. You don't have to kiss up to them like your sister seems to, but if you do make a mistake, act like a complete goody-two-shoes. It will totally work. Good luck. :)
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what most people seems to forget is that your parents are just like anyone else, which means they have problems, it's just that anyone doesn't want to come forward with the fact that their parents have their own fault. you said that you tried being nice to them but, and i know it sounds crazy, what if you just sit them down together (your parents) and make them talk about what's on their minds and don't no for an answer just because you're their child. don't look at them as your parents when you're talking to them but like your two best friends how are not getting along. make them talk and most likly yell because when people yell they say things that they are tring to hide.
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