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on the verge of breaking up...=(
ok so last night...things were fine...better than fine, AMAZING! we were normal like usual...having fun, cuddling, kissin you know the whole bf gf thing. well the problem was i thought my mom wanted us to break up because of certain reasons so i told him today but i was crying and said how i didn't want it to happen. well he didn't wait for me outside my class afterwords but at the end of the day he came to my last period class and we talked some things out and he said that worst comes to worst we can just be really good friends. i'm sitting here crying my eyes out outside the door but he's just standing there with a little smile wiping my tears away. but i'm trying my best to make things work but he just kinda seems to be going with the flow, not having any real emotions [[or at least that i can see]]. does he truly want to end it and should i quit fighting? or is he just being a guy about this?? =(
we're both 17 if that helps lol [[and if this situation sounds so elementary i'm sorry...he's my first serious relationship and i'm terrified to lose him]]
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Ok, if you really love him don't let eny one tell you that can't see him eny more.If you let people to tell you that you can;t love some one eny more, then who knowes that person might be ruining you futchure (or saveing it no one knows).But if you love him you can't give up on him now and you have to fight for him.He is problet just holding back his emotions, alot of guys do that, they don't think its ok to cry when things go wrong like some girls (and some guys).Sence i don't know him i can't tell you exactly thats what he is doing but as a guess thats what i would say.I hope every think works out for you hun *hugs*
-Good luck :)
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I don't think he wants to lose you. He's probably just trying to be calm about this and not cause a huge scene, you know? He might just want it all to go easy and see what happens, because like you guys might not break up.
As for the smiling thing, he might be smiling because he's somewhat happy. Not HAPPY that you two are breaking up, but I would have a little smile on my face to knowing the person I'm dating's getting so upset over me. It's probably making him feel very loved and cared for and everything. Also, like you said, guys rarely show their true emotions, so he just might be trying to play it cool and everything.
I would talk to your mother and ask her why she exactly doesn't want the two of you dating, what did he do wrong? See what her reasoning is, and tell her you understand where she's coming from and her concern and everything, but you can't stop dating him. You're not trying to arouse a fight or anything, but this is the first serious relationship you've ever had, and it'd be wrong for her to try and break the two of you up and ruin it. It'd hurt your feelings alot to, and you don't want to lose him.
And just talk to her about it and see her point of view, but don't forget to in a strong serious tone, show her your point of view too and where you're coming from in this whole situation.
I know it's going to sound stupid and corny, but if you really like this guy ( possibly love ), then you need to stick by him and be with him, no matter what your mom or people try to tell you guys to break you two up. If you two are happy together, everyone else should be happy too.
I hope I helped.
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